adele1985
04-07-2013, 06:14 AM
ok a bit of background first (sorry long one :blush:)
I'm pretty close to my family ever since my cousin had her first baby 5 years ago ive went down to see her once a week, spent time with her and always bought her (the child - x) things ect, not always agreed with her parenting but never said anything as to me that's up to my cousin how to bring x up
late last year my other cousin had his first baby (y) but because of personal problems my aunt has had the baby since hes been born - im very close with my aunt and shes always made the effort to come and see me once a week as well as phone calls on both sides ect
in the mean time Xs mum has had another baby (z) which I don't really see that much I still go down every week but new baby or mum are generally not there so I don't feel that im that close or have developed a bond with the new baby like I have x or y
last weekend I went to see y but before I did I had some shopping to do while in the pound shop I saw a rattle I though y would like ( I only thought about it as I saw the age range on it) anyway I bought it and through nothing else of it
when I got to my nanas (who was babysitting y) and gave him the rattle my aunt ( x and zs nana) just walked out and my nana went of on one saying u shouldn't of got one without the other
I had my say which was z wasn't even there and even if he was I don't think he would be bothered being only 3 months old I said that I didn't think of z as to me the rattle wasn't suitable for him yet coz of his age and it was a pound rattle and a impulse buy - I also told her she and my aunt where being childish for making a big deal out of it especially when they know I wouldn't do it intestinally
am I in the wrong here - I don't generally buy one just because I buy the other it normally comes down to seeing something thinking oh x y or z would like that and getting it
I'm pretty close to my family ever since my cousin had her first baby 5 years ago ive went down to see her once a week, spent time with her and always bought her (the child - x) things ect, not always agreed with her parenting but never said anything as to me that's up to my cousin how to bring x up
late last year my other cousin had his first baby (y) but because of personal problems my aunt has had the baby since hes been born - im very close with my aunt and shes always made the effort to come and see me once a week as well as phone calls on both sides ect
in the mean time Xs mum has had another baby (z) which I don't really see that much I still go down every week but new baby or mum are generally not there so I don't feel that im that close or have developed a bond with the new baby like I have x or y
last weekend I went to see y but before I did I had some shopping to do while in the pound shop I saw a rattle I though y would like ( I only thought about it as I saw the age range on it) anyway I bought it and through nothing else of it
when I got to my nanas (who was babysitting y) and gave him the rattle my aunt ( x and zs nana) just walked out and my nana went of on one saying u shouldn't of got one without the other
I had my say which was z wasn't even there and even if he was I don't think he would be bothered being only 3 months old I said that I didn't think of z as to me the rattle wasn't suitable for him yet coz of his age and it was a pound rattle and a impulse buy - I also told her she and my aunt where being childish for making a big deal out of it especially when they know I wouldn't do it intestinally
am I in the wrong here - I don't generally buy one just because I buy the other it normally comes down to seeing something thinking oh x y or z would like that and getting it