mushpea
12-03-2013, 08:21 PM
I look after sibblings age 8yrs and 5yrs, eldest has ADHD and younger one copies the behaviour, just lately the younger one has become a lot worse in behavour being very cheeky, ignoring me constantly and back chatting and I have had enough, i am their third childminder and when they came to me I made time for them both and gave the older one space of his own and made emotion charts to help him and I feel have worked hard with them, they choose activities to do each week to keep them busy as this helps, tonight we made bread, older one says why cant I have a bowl on my own, younger one says this is horrible, older one snatches spoon younger one grabs bowl and so it goes on whils the 18 month old and 4yrold watch on with horrifyied looks on their faces. I am also fed up with how they are with the younger ones, they fight over whos going to play with them and get very crafty about how they get their attentions, it could be that the younger one is playing with a littly and the older one will say to the littly come and look at this then he will say you have to play with me now and the younger one will do the same, they cant all play together as they will argue over whats what, today we had fisticuffs because i'd sent them to get their shoes and coats on with out me being in the hall.
I have had them since october and whilst I can deal with their behaviour I can not stand how they are getting worse and how they are treating the younger children so I have decided to give notice, thing is I am their third childminder because of their behaviour and they hae a reputation and I know that the other childminders who go to the school will not take them on meaning mum cannot work so I feel really mean that I am going to give notice but I know that for the littlys sakes and my sanity I have too, I am going to tell her that I will have them to the end of July and wont have them back in september so she has some time to sort out alternative care, I am not so worried about the impact this time will have on the younger ones because they only mix for about an hour a day and in that time I will organize activities so that they dont play with the littlys as such but are at the table doing stuff plus the littlys love them both although goodness knows why! the schoolies dont come in the hols and the littlys ask for them!
so how do I summon up the confidence to face mum knowing that they wont find anyone else and knowing that I have had them quite a while and things seemed to be going ok!
I have had them since october and whilst I can deal with their behaviour I can not stand how they are getting worse and how they are treating the younger children so I have decided to give notice, thing is I am their third childminder because of their behaviour and they hae a reputation and I know that the other childminders who go to the school will not take them on meaning mum cannot work so I feel really mean that I am going to give notice but I know that for the littlys sakes and my sanity I have too, I am going to tell her that I will have them to the end of July and wont have them back in september so she has some time to sort out alternative care, I am not so worried about the impact this time will have on the younger ones because they only mix for about an hour a day and in that time I will organize activities so that they dont play with the littlys as such but are at the table doing stuff plus the littlys love them both although goodness knows why! the schoolies dont come in the hols and the littlys ask for them!
so how do I summon up the confidence to face mum knowing that they wont find anyone else and knowing that I have had them quite a while and things seemed to be going ok!