Katy M
13-11-2012, 04:29 PM
I have minded this little boy from 9 months old. He is an only child, both parents work really hard and have serious guilt issues with him being away from them so much. They have a very softly, softly approach to behaviour. He is a very fussy child, just turned 2 years old. He is very clever and a very good talker.
Over the past 5ish weeks his behaviour has changed. Nothing has changed at home. He has started pushing, snatching, stomping, kicking and generally not being nice to the other children. He has a particular problem with an 18 month old girl that is very thin and new on her feet. She does not provoke him in any way. I have watched their interactions closely to see what leads up to his behaviour but he can go from playing with something contentedly and notice her and just go over and push her off her feet or snatch her toy. Some days it is relentless. Despite her size she is pretty tough and does not over-react.
I have been putting him in time out. I explain to him what he is doing that is unacceptable and leave him sat on his own for 2 mins. He stays there fine. I go back to him and explain again and get him to say 'sorry'. He can walk directly from time out and straight away push or hurt someone!! I talked to his mum and dad. Mum said time out doesn't work. She said to try keeping the tone up beat and move him on from the incident. I tried this last week and was exhausted by the end of the day. He was still insisting in the same pattern of behaviour. I feel like giving him no consequences to his behaviour is not teaching him anything.
Any suggestions??
Over the past 5ish weeks his behaviour has changed. Nothing has changed at home. He has started pushing, snatching, stomping, kicking and generally not being nice to the other children. He has a particular problem with an 18 month old girl that is very thin and new on her feet. She does not provoke him in any way. I have watched their interactions closely to see what leads up to his behaviour but he can go from playing with something contentedly and notice her and just go over and push her off her feet or snatch her toy. Some days it is relentless. Despite her size she is pretty tough and does not over-react.
I have been putting him in time out. I explain to him what he is doing that is unacceptable and leave him sat on his own for 2 mins. He stays there fine. I go back to him and explain again and get him to say 'sorry'. He can walk directly from time out and straight away push or hurt someone!! I talked to his mum and dad. Mum said time out doesn't work. She said to try keeping the tone up beat and move him on from the incident. I tried this last week and was exhausted by the end of the day. He was still insisting in the same pattern of behaviour. I feel like giving him no consequences to his behaviour is not teaching him anything.
Any suggestions??