smurfette
05-10-2012, 12:42 PM
Having a nightmarish few weeks here, a friend and I decided to co mind together from my house and we are both I think having extreme problems settling into a routine together.
I thought before we started that we minded and parented similarly , but I have found her to be often taking the easy option , but then maybe I need to take a chill pill and relax a bit! I had quite a tight routine going to manage my three or four preschoolers and my own three girls and naturally she has her own ideas about how things should go, and is more of a laid back person than I am. I am finding myself snapping at her all the time.. Well not snapping but saying things in a way I wouldn't like to, and feel like I have to guide and nearly parent her through everything.
Because we can only take five preschoolers and as many after Schoolers as we like and I already use three spaces, I have given her two full time soaces and 2 after school places as we have four of our own schoolies and felt this was what we could manage. My business is already established and I have the premises and equipment so we decided she would give me ten percent of what she earns. The biggest problem is that doesn't amount to a whole lot for me unless she is full and she really expects the work to just come to her or for me to find the customers and we have had words about that this week as she hasnt bothered, she had a full timer who has given notice in the settling in period and two doing about twenty hours each. She hasn't really bothered with after schoolers and only has two coming two days a week, I have to collect my girls in the car ans we agreed I would collect her two then but it isn't any quicker not going direct so today I told her I wasn't happy doing that as we got stuck in traffic and my girls were in the car an hour and doing their homework! That went down like a lead balloon but if something isn't working for me what's the point?!
I know some of it is me and my problem adjusting but
Just wanted to see if anyone else has been throUgh the same? Hoping it will get better
I thought before we started that we minded and parented similarly , but I have found her to be often taking the easy option , but then maybe I need to take a chill pill and relax a bit! I had quite a tight routine going to manage my three or four preschoolers and my own three girls and naturally she has her own ideas about how things should go, and is more of a laid back person than I am. I am finding myself snapping at her all the time.. Well not snapping but saying things in a way I wouldn't like to, and feel like I have to guide and nearly parent her through everything.
Because we can only take five preschoolers and as many after Schoolers as we like and I already use three spaces, I have given her two full time soaces and 2 after school places as we have four of our own schoolies and felt this was what we could manage. My business is already established and I have the premises and equipment so we decided she would give me ten percent of what she earns. The biggest problem is that doesn't amount to a whole lot for me unless she is full and she really expects the work to just come to her or for me to find the customers and we have had words about that this week as she hasnt bothered, she had a full timer who has given notice in the settling in period and two doing about twenty hours each. She hasn't really bothered with after schoolers and only has two coming two days a week, I have to collect my girls in the car ans we agreed I would collect her two then but it isn't any quicker not going direct so today I told her I wasn't happy doing that as we got stuck in traffic and my girls were in the car an hour and doing their homework! That went down like a lead balloon but if something isn't working for me what's the point?!
I know some of it is me and my problem adjusting but
Just wanted to see if anyone else has been throUgh the same? Hoping it will get better