some people on here....

[kindredspirits]

I now have a hilarious mental image!!!!

nothing funny about how i look you cheeky mare! i am a goddess!!!!

[Twinkles]

On the other hand tell me who it is and I'll 'get' them at playtime

[silvermist]

It's very difficult. On the whole I think we're fairly non judgemental ( mental perhaps but not judgemental ! ).

You will always get the odd 'know it all' and person who's way is always best.

What we also have to remember is that in a conversation tone of voice and facial expression play a huge part in our understanding whereas online you can't see or hear that to soften what's being said.


I agree let's all try to keep the spirit of the forum which has always been friendly and non judgemental.

Woohoo! I agree mental not judgemental.

[wendywu]

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You will always get the odd 'know it all' and person who's way is always best.

Real life is like that as well, you get them there as well

[Linda Mc]

I know where you're coming from Sometimes when I see a reply to someone's post I think ouch (SP?) that's not very helpful!

I was brought up to believe if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all It's helped me in my working & personal life.

[EmmaReed84]

I know where you're coming from Sometimes when I see a reply to someone's post I think ouch (SP?) that's not very helpful!

I was brought up to believe if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all It's helped me in my working & personal life.

I have no idea what has got into me today I am like a giggling wreck now!

Picturing thumper from Bambi now

[Linda Mc]

5ft10 skinny, long legs, long gorgeous flowing hair, beautiful eyes, amazing full lips, pert boobies, firm bum... Then I wake up...

Hey! That's me!

[francinejayne]

OK Ladies, that's enough of all of that!

Thanks for your concerns, those that have replied have not upset me, so you can carry on your dreams with a clear conscience!

I love this forum and I get a lot out of it, there have just been a few posts that have annoyed me recently.

[Twinkles]

I have no idea what has got into me today I am like a giggling wreck now!

Picturing thumper from Bambi now

Someone pass Emma a tena lady

[francinejayne]

On the other hand tell me who it is and I'll 'get' them at playtime

I am very tempted to name and shame - but I just can't bring myself to do it!!!!

[rickysmiths]

glad you got that off your chest i hope I'm not one of them

I've been upset in the past at the way people occasionally respond to others, that they can be a bit harsh. IMO the best thing to do is to PM the member and point out what you fee,,or even say so on the thread.

At the end of the day, we can all forget how things sound in writing sometimes and especially when you are typing a rushed reply it can come across as very short even when it's meant as friendly advice and we all need to be reminded of that sometimes I think.

But.... you are right everyone deserves to receive all viewpoints to their problem and to be given advice in a non-judgemental, supportive way.

I agree with Juggler.

[EmmaReed84]

I am very tempted to name and shame - but I just can't bring myself to do it!!!!

Ohhh go on, be a devil... as long as it is not me lol

[Linda Mc]

Someone pass Emma a tena lady

In the space of an hour or so I've replied to post's about the menopause & now a Tena Lady ... I'm feeling VERY old! LOL

[jelly15]

I think I have missed those jugmental posts unless I was one of them and I didn't mean to sound it . I am going to be paranoid now I have upset OP.

[LOOPYLISA]

You lot have me lol

[sarah707]

Sometimes people do not realise how they come across in posts... they type like they are thinking but you cannot see their smile or their concerned face.

Often a different viewpoint will seem judgemental because it's opposing what you think yourself - when really it's just different.

Pauline works very hard to keep this a friendly, supportive forum and needs us all to work together to help and look after each other.

If anyone is ever upset by anything they see posted on here they should let one of the mods know (not go away without telling anyone) and we will look into it for them.

That's one of the reasons we are here

[onceinabluemoon]

Ahhh, I think that would be me then...

[francinejayne]

Ahhh, I think that would be me then...

actually it's not! we have sometimes had different opinions, but I feel that you put yours across whilst still respecting others!

[nelly]

are really getting on my nerves!!!

there, I have said what I have been feeling for a while! and if I offend any of the people that are getting on my nerves then I am not sorry! if I offend anyone not getting only nerves then I am sorry!!

certain people seem to be EXTREMELY judgemental, they appear to have a go at others unnecessarily, and seem to hold the opinion that their opinions matter more than others! they seems to get a kick out of belittling others

and I know I am having a go now, but I just can't bite my tongue any longer!

I was under the impression that this forum was to help others, and to provide support. please can everyone try and remember that, and make it a nice, helpful and friendly place to be?

thanks!

total agree , i only asked something on here before and i got my head bit off,it made me feel like i was stupid .good on you for being honest

[onceinabluemoon]

actually it's not! we have sometimes had different opinions, but I feel that you put yours across whilst still respecting others!

oh ok, cool. I know sometimes I come over a bit abrupt... and I always say what I mean, which doesn't always go down well.