Going out of my mind

[newbie1512]

Hi all

Im so scared and I dont know what the hell to do. Ive just had a chat on the phone to the doctor about some of the symptoms im having at the moment and ive been called in on Tuesday evening to have the first appointment, cant go before as im working
I went through my pain/symptoms with her and with the results of my smear they are sending me for an urgent scan. She said it could be cervical cancer but a scan and tests will confirm or rule it out but not to worry.

How the hell can I not worry, cancer runs in the family although not this sort and im only 28.

I have told my hubby its a routine thing, cant worry him aswell. I just want to cry but my hubby will know something more is wrong if I do and crying wont help me.

I dont even know why im writing this on here, just feels like im letting a bit out.

Sorry for my moan guys Just dont know what to do right now

[debratina]

sending big hugs and hope that everything goes well for you
xxx

[linda2girls]

Please try not to worry. I think it's very unprofessional of the doctor to have that type of conversation with you over the phone, there's other things it could be. Have you had an abnormal smear? If so, you are usually called into the hospital and the abnormal cells can be quickly removed - you are then closely monitored. Apparently abnormal cells take years to develop into cancer cells - if they ever do - that's why we only have to have smear tests every 3-5 years.

Of course you will worry all weekend now, it's only natural.

Sending you best wishes.
Linda
xx

[Tinglesnark]

whoah! cripes that is scary!
i am the sort of perso that HAS to unburden myself to my OH. I do ot believe in keeping things from people to save them the worry when i know that by sharing my problem, it will halve the worry for me AND give the other person time to adjust to whatever they may have to face with me...

dont be alone, tell him and have a cry. you may find out that everything is normal and youre fine...if you dont then its gonna be a HUGE shock to him

(big hugs )

[Alibali]

Honey, i think you need to tell someone, hubby or mum/sister, you cant go through this alone. Hopefully all will work out well, but the not knowing stage is the worst. You need a big hug and a big cry. Take care xx

[francinejayne]

oh poor you - sending hugs!

question - if it were the other way round would you want hubbie to tell you? I know I would! I think you should tell him, cry on his shoulder, get lots of hugs, and then I bet you feel much better knowing that there's someone there for you, so you can then have a cry and a hug whenever you need one!

fingers crossed that it's a false alarm - please let us know how you get on
xxxxx

[~Grasshopper~]

aww hun, big hugs. hope its all ok.

xxxx

[Jo Jo]

Just wanted to send you big hugs,

[Katiekoo]

I hope you have someone you can turn to, it's important not to keep these things inside. I'm sure it will all turn out fine, but you do need support
Hugs x

[lfishwick]

Hi
When I had my breast cancer scare a few years back ( I had a biopsy and was told it was not benign and that I had to have the the lump removed - then was left for the whole Christmas period believing I had cancer as they said it was not benign - then when I went for the results on the lump analysis was told it was benign!!)

But anyway back to the point... when I had my scare I needed my husband to lean on, I needed to be able to speak to him when late at night my fears and worries were swirling in my head.

If you do not want to speak to him, do you have someone else you can talk to face to face?

Sending you hugs and I have my fingers crossed for you xx

[funemnx]

Great big (((HUG))) I had abnormal smear after no 3 son was born, age 27, had a colposcopy and went on to have son no 4, no probs since - I hope your problem is a simple to fix xxxx

[jelly15]

I had pre cancerous cells when I was nineteen and had a colposcopy and I now have two teenagers and never had another abnormal smear since, hope you will be ok too. I must say that your doctor shouldn't have given you news like that over the phone.

[jacqui]

Just want to send hugs to you - try not to worry too much, I have been there myself. (Word to the wise, though - you can ask to be given a general anaesthetic - I did). I agree with others, the doc should never have discussed over the 'phone - that is completely unprofessional xx

[Mamma4Ya]

It is easier to say not to worry but I would suggest you do speak to your hubby. I do think it was wrong of your doctor to suggest that over the telephone without even seeing you as there are infections that can cause simular symtoms to cervical cancer and are easily treated.

I had to have a cone biopsy at the age of 28yrs due to early cancer which was discovered during a routine smear after the birth of my son and doctors were putting my symptoms down to being pregnant and the pain down to the baby pressing on a nerve. My mother and grandmother had the same problem.

My daughter who is 25 yrs went to see her doctor last week and he is arranging tests for her as she is having problems and due to family history better to get checked out.



Sending positive energy to you

[Mookins]

hugs hun xxxx

[marleymoo]

going through something similar so thinking of you.....

[Greengrass74]

I can't imagine how you are feeling, but as a loving husband I would want my wife to tell me, I don't know you or your husband but please as a man/husband I would ask you to tell him if you are able, I think you will find that he will give you the support you need right now

Take care and I hope everything turns out ok

[blue bear]

Big hugs xxx

[gegele]

i know it's scary,

i agree that a big hubby hug can make things a tad better.

i had pre cancerous cells at 26 and i had to go and have check at hospital every 6months for 2yrs, then have a smear test evry year and now i'm back to every 3yrs! i had 2 kids in between.

i think they scare people to ensure they do follow up their appointment as a lot of women do not...

breathe! as much as you can let yourself imagine the worst there is also a big part of not so bad possibility.
it might be nothing at 50/50
then it might be a little something which only need monitoring#
or a something that need a little treatment
a little something that need bigger treatment.......

you see it can be loads before being something dramatic.

chin up, stay positive. xxx

[newbie1512]

Thank you all for your kind and supportive words. I have told my hubby now and he just gave me a huge cuddle.

I'm trying my best not to think about it but it seems impossible but I've just got to wait until Tuesday to get the ball rolling

Thank you all so much xx