OMG! I've had such a bad last few hours!
Fridays are always manic but I've taken on a new mindee about a month ago that seemed lovely to begin with! He is an only child and doesn't really know how to behave around other children. Although when I mentioned this to mum she did remind me that he has been at nursery since he was little. I am waiting for mum to sign a form to say I can share info with the nursery then I plan on contacting them to see what they have been working on with him, but mum has not mentioned any issues. He is very bright for his age and missed out on going to school last sept by 1 day!
What he does- He will constantly say a child's name like Lucy lucy lucy lucy lucy lucy lucy lucy lucy............ not because he wants to particularly say anything because when I ask he comes out random things he's just thought of, but I will quite often say B***(his name) thats enough but he takes no notice of me and will carry on. As you can imagine this aggrevates the other children.
My daughter is quite tempermental and I'm having issues with her at the moment with tantrums etc but if shes "grumpy" he will see this as a great game of winding her up until she looses it. If its just constantly making a noise she doesnt like and not stopping when I ask him to, until I have to raise my voice! Or he will do something like put something on her head which will start her screaming (I am working on her asking him to stop, but shes finding it hard!) and today I was trying to get her to tell him "no I don't like that" and he just kept doing it and doing it, I asked him to stop but he just wouldn't until I raised my voice again.
He was winding my son up at the dinner table insisting he was 7 and my son kept says "no I'm 6," and b*** would come back"no your 7" untill they were shouting at each other. I know my son is also to blame but he just gets so annoyed at him.
If a child is playing with something he will insist he wants to play with it and goes on about "you must share, you must share" even though he doesn't even really want it and will soon move onto some different!
He repeats what the other children are saying over and over again, he just doesnt let up!
Now this afternoon has been really difficult as the other children seemed to be extra grumpy and hyper(probably due to half term etc) but it has made me seek advice. When I read this the behaviour doen't seem to be over bad but its how this behaviour then effects the other children, they all just get stressed and "grumpy" with each other, causing fall outs and arguments!
I don't know how to approach it with mum without making it sound like I am blaming her son and labeling as naughty(which I'm not) but if he doesn't calm down or I don't find a statagy that works I don't think I can continue looking after him.
Any advice would be gratefully received! on dealing with the behaviour and dealing with mum.
Thanks
Emma
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