I don't know if any of you lovely people have ever dealt with anything like this but here goes...
I have been looking after a child since he was 1 he's now nearly 4. He started with his sister and all was well, happy chatty and involved totally with everything that went on here activity wise and witht he other children (mine included).
Since his sister went to school it's been all change, he has started pre school in the mornings 3 of the 4 I have him, I pick him and my son up at 1 and then we head out at 2.30 to get my other son.
He became very withdrawn, quite often not speaking to me (no matter how much I tried). Mum reckoned this was punishment for his being here and I got the raw end. I have managed to overcome this and we were getting along great.
Then we had the Easter break and it feels like i'm back at square one except he now seems to be using sleep to escape his feelings both here and at nursery....he will fall asleep whilst playing, eating and on the toilet!!! I have to constantly say his name to wake him. I have spoken to mum and she says he sleeps fine at home although wakes and gets in with them but goes straight back to sleep,she quite often has to wake him to bring him here for 8. Nursery are convinced he's not getting the sleep he requires and that's the end of it but I can't help thinking he's using it to escape his situation.
I feel like an utter failure as nothing I do engages him, he's sullen and can be very rude but is this because he's just so tired.
I don't get that much time with him anymore as I take him to nursery and pick him up at 1, we have lunch and then it's time to pick my son up.
As we get home mum is here to pick him up. I only have him Tuesday mornings now, this week he refused to do anything with me....I had set up an activity which he didn't want to do so I asked him what he did want and he said 'nothing I just want to play' so I sat and got the dinosaurs out and the knights that I know he likes.....he turned his back on me!! What do I do? I feel so sorry for him as I know all he wants is to be at home but it's not an option....he's the same at groups...will just sit there.
Nursery have described him as 'stagnant' which is harsh.
I don't know where to go with this little one anymore, I have a baby starting in June so would appreciate any advice you can offer.
Sorry for the long post.....it took a while for me to admit that I'm not going to sort this without help....
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