rant and advice need!!!! Please.....

**sarahstanbridge** · 24-07-2008, 09:27 AM

hi all,

need a rant so please bear with me.

am really peed off now!! about 2 months a ago got a call for a 6
month old who was in nursery care needing full time care as mum was
not happy with the nusery. seemed really keen when they were here.
next afteroon got call to say yes wanted me. told them to let me
know when they needed me to start as they had to give notice to
nursery. anyway didnt here back for over a month and then they rang
to say can we do contracts k has left nurserythis week and we have
been trying to ring you. now i should have realised then what she
was going to be like but i said yes as i really could do with the
extra money. she came round 3 weeks ago to do contracts. arranged a
settling session 5 days before she was meant to start. she rang said
really sorry little one not well having tests in hospital could we
have a settling session the day she meant to start and pospone start
date for 2 weeks time. as she was going to be on holiday the 2nd week
she was here anyway. like a fool i say yes. asked for deposit she
said i bring it with me next week. guess what? she never showed
after 3 days managed to track her down up north visiting family.
rearranged settling session for this pm with start date on monday.
just had call to say the little one is still up north can she come on
monday. i said you want to just start her on monday without a
settling session , she says NO just settle in session on monday so i
said can you drop deposit in and when exactly do you want her to
start, then she tells me that she off today to hand her cv into
agencies as she does not have a job urghhhhhh..... she must have
known that last week when i spoke to her. if she doesnt show on
monday she can forget it ? what would you all do? never had
anything like this in 6 years minding. sorry so long and thanks if
you got to the bottom.

sarah

**Annie_T** · 24-07-2008, 09:32 AM

oh no thats bad. cant stand people that mess you about .. i mean its your living not a hobby

i hope does show hun but if not i would say sorry had give space to another child as need space filled

**mimo** · 24-07-2008, 09:37 AM

i would See if she turns up on monday .If she didnt show i would put the pressure on her by telling her that you have had another enquiry and you need a definate start date and the deposit from her by wednesday as you can hold her place open any longer.
I would also make sure she pays in advance so that if she keeps changing her mind all the time you have atleast been paid.
Good luck

**katickles** · 24-07-2008, 10:04 AM

Personally If it were me & she didn't show Monday (not that i'd hold my breath thats she's gong to!!), then i would forget it. Wouldn't ring her either. Then the next time she calls, I'd very calmly say sorry but I have decided that I am not going to take your little one one. I would say that she has messed me around far to much & that I didn't think we'd have a good working relationship together.

TBH I don't think lo will be with you- mums not going to pay childcare if she hasn't even got a job!

Sorry you have been messed about like this - some parents just arn't worth it. x

**Bevbeetle** · 24-07-2008, 10:25 AM

I feel for you

A friend of a friend did the same to me phoned me the night before mindee was due to start i was gutted felt useless cryed all night, anyway that was 9yrs ago my business going really well fully booked waiting list, the person who let me down got no job no husband (he left because she mad) kids in trouble all the time , what a lucky escape i had !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

**miffy** · 24-07-2008, 10:51 AM

Think if it were me I'd just cut my losses here and start looking for a replacement.

Mum has messed you about and now you know she doesn't even have a job - don't expect she will turn up on Monday and even if she did I still think she will mess you around.

You have no contract and no obligation to this mum so just forget her and if she does contact you say you have had to let the place go.

Good luck - hope you fill the space soon

Miffy xx

Pipsqueak · 24-07-2008, 11:29 AM

spot on advice from Miffy

**Donkey** · 24-07-2008, 12:34 PM

sorry to hear of your troubles, but I would def do what miffy says
xx

**FizzysFriends** · 24-07-2008, 01:03 PM

I'd send her packing, she's bound to cause you trouble in the future.

**wellybelly** · 24-07-2008, 02:50 PM

Next, You'd get a sob story every time she is due to pay. Dont get involved!

**sarah707** · 24-07-2008, 05:30 PM

Originally Posted by Katie

Next, You'd get a sob story every time she is due to pay. Dont get involved!

Yup! I agree!

**Bushpig** · 24-07-2008, 06:13 PM

Originally Posted by miffy

Think if it were me I'd just cut my losses here and start looking for a replacement.

Mum has messed you about and now you know she doesn't even have a job - don't expect she will turn up on Monday and even if she did I still think she will mess you around.

You have no contract and no obligation to this mum so just forget her and if she does contact you say you have had to let the place go.

Good luck - hope you fill the space soon

Miffy xx

Spot on Miffy! This type of person is just NOT WORTH THE HASSLE. If she is messing you around like this already PRIOR to starting, imagine what a nightmare she will be when she starts bringing the kids...??

**sarahstanbridge** · 24-07-2008, 06:19 PM

hi, have texted her (only way to get hold of her) and said basically i feel i have been very flexible and understanding, that i am a business and have bill mortage etc. if i do not receive the deposit by monday i will give the space to some else. not i have anyone lined up but she doesnt know that. i guess i will just have to wait to see what happens.

**Bushpig** · 24-07-2008, 06:22 PM

That's all you can do. The ball is in her court. If you do get another inquiry, and the places go, it is her loss.

I would not be happy taking on someone like her on though tbh

Childminding is demanding enough, with long hours and so much planning etc... and deserves prompt payment, as with any job.

**polobear1970** · 24-07-2008, 06:22 PM

I agree with the rest, if this is what she is like now.

Sometime think we try to hard, and that makes them think we have only them to worry about.

Lisa

**breezy** · 24-07-2008, 06:24 PM

Dont hold your breath! let us know what happens though!

**polobear1970** · 24-07-2008, 06:29 PM

I'm with the others, think you need to cut your loses

**sarahstanbridge** · 25-07-2008, 08:38 AM

thanks for your replies, not had any reply to text yest but i will let you now what happens.

**Chimps Childminding** · 25-07-2008, 05:03 PM

I agree with what everyone else has said - you can only wait for so long! I would be inclined to leave things and if someone else needs you then if she gets back to you wanting the space say very sweetly, that you are very sorry but as she didn't appear to want to pay a deposit, she couldn't expect you to keep the space open for her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

**sarahstanbridge** · 28-07-2008, 08:58 AM

well, i got a text last night saying that she has thought about my text over the weekend and has decided that she is not going to put k into childcare until she finds a full time job because of the expense and that she is sorry. my next question is she has my registration number and i want to make sure she is not claiming anything by using it. have a feeling she has been having me on from the beginning! who can i contact? does anyone know? thanks sarah