Why do my own children have to be such a pain - RANT

Keeley77 · 25-07-2013, 03:13 PM

Just had prospective parent come to visit.

I have four children with me today (two of which are my own)

I new that my 2 year olds behaviour would be ok (ish), however kept reminding my 4 yr old DD to be on best behaviour etc etc....

so the minute the parent arrives she starts having a screaming tantrum about chalk, (she wanted a bit of chalk that a minded 2 year old had outside) - Found her some different pieces of chalk but of course this wasn't the the right chalk

and continued with the tantrum making it completely impossible to talk to the parent, caused me to feel like a nervous wreck and totally blew any chances
Really annoyed, needed to rant!!!

**Koala** · 25-07-2013, 03:21 PM

It's a good job we love 'em!!

**westbrom44** · 25-07-2013, 03:52 PM

When my youngest son was that age he always played up if I I had a prospective parent or my development officer to visit. I found them to be sympathetic. 4 years old is still very young.

**Tazmin68** · 25-07-2013, 04:18 PM

I was doing the school pick up which meant that I had my youngest son who was 2 years old and was collecting my oldest sin plus a mindees from school. I used a wrist strap with ny youngest son as he would try to run to car park when we left the school playground. Well because he did not same to wear the wrist strap when the school bell went off he had a right 2 year old tantrums and I then received a call from an ofsted inspector stating they had received an anonymous complaint about a toddler in my care being upset in the school playground. Fortunately the inspector thought it was a rather stupid complaint and was more than satisfied when I explained situation that he did not want to wear a wrist strap and as the school was on a main road my worries

**Bumble Beez** · 25-07-2013, 07:17 PM

Well my four year old and eight year old sons decided to climb into my double buggy yesterday afternoon while I was seeing out a LO...whole thing tipped and then came the screaming and blaming each other etc. always when I'm at the door is when my own boys decide they need my attention full on

can be wearing at times and I once said to my hubby that if a mindee behaved that way as much as my boys did I would have handed notice a long time ago!!
Hey ho...love them to pieces tho and do what i do so that I can spend more time with them so kind of can't complain

Sarah x

**FizzWizz** · 25-07-2013, 07:26 PM

You have my sympathy, i have to confess to arranging visits for when my DD was in preschool as I knew that she would play up the minute she didn't get my attention. She still does it at collection time but by then they have got to know us a bit better!

**loocyloo** · 25-07-2013, 07:59 PM

last night was the FIRST time ever ( in 10 years! ) that I had a parent here and my own children left me in peace! it was a parent they know but I was fully expecting to be asked some inane question or be asked to do something URGENTLY but nothing!

**tigwig** · 25-07-2013, 08:43 PM

I ALWAYS make sure my 3yr old is not here when I have parents round. He is so badly behaved in front of others. He shouts, pushes and hits. Once even threw a conker at a prospective babies head! Since that particular episode if I cant find anyone to look after him I arrange a visit for another time!

**Gem wright** · 25-07-2013, 08:51 PM

Completely agree with your rant. Me and my husband childmind together, we have a 4 month old who is no where near as much trouble as the 7 and 5 year old. We spend more time telling ours off then any other child. But when parents come to collect our little mindees do become monkies for their parents!
It's the worst part of the holidays for sure, you would of thought our own children would know better! Little monkies......

**Sweetpea** · 25-07-2013, 08:54 PM

Oh yes I know this feeling sometimes!

**Samijanec** · 25-07-2013, 08:57 PM

My three year old is the same, he's a darling at the weekend but as soon as my first mindee arrives on a Monday morning he just changes into a nightmare child. And when a prospective parent comes to visit he just shows off so much. I was beginning to think it was just me that had problems with my own.
I know that my mindees play up as soon as their parents pick them p, but they are mostly good with me..

Keeley77 · 26-07-2013, 07:48 AM

Originally Posted by tigwig

I ALWAYS make sure my 3yr old is not here when I have parents round. He is so badly behaved in front of others. He shouts, pushes and hits. Once even threw a conker at a prospective babies head! Since that particular episode if I cant find anyone to look after him I arrange a visit for another time!

Sorry, but that really did make me laugh!!!

Feel alot better now, having read all your comments!!! glad to know i'm not the only one who's children are slightly 'testing'....

I've got my Dev officer coming this morning... god only knows what sort of performance she will put on for her..

Thanks for all your responses!!

Keeley77 · 26-07-2013, 10:58 AM

Originally Posted by Tazmin68

I was doing the school pick up which meant that I had my youngest son who was 2 years old and was collecting my oldest sin plus a mindees from school. I used a wrist strap with ny youngest son as he would try to run to car park when we left the school playground. Well because he did not same to wear the wrist strap when the school bell went off he had a right 2 year old tantrums and I then received a call from an ofsted inspector stating they had received an anonymous complaint about a toddler in my care being upset in the school playground. Fortunately the inspector thought it was a rather stupid complaint and was more than satisfied when I explained situation that he did not want to wear a wrist strap and as the school was on a main road my worries

Someone reported you to OFSTED because of a toddler haveing a tatrum!! Oh my!!!

... Did an inspector come out to see you about it?

**Tazmin68** · 26-07-2013, 11:34 AM

The inspector phoned me to ask about what happened in his own words " it seemed a rather silly complaint but still needed to be looked into and he did not want to waste petrol travelling to me"

**sarah707** · 26-07-2013, 02:48 PM

DS used to be an absolute nightmare asking silly questions and challenging things I was saying... he's much older now and very helpful

**PRINCESSDAISYFLOWER** · 26-07-2013, 09:14 PM

I can sympathise. My 4 yr old has scared off a lovely family with their baby, generally being boisterous then repeatedly telling them that they cant bring their child when its sick "mummy gets angry when parents bring sick children, why cant parents just keep them at home"

**lubeam** · 26-07-2013, 09:27 PM

I'm on this boat ! When were out or there's some one here it my kids that cause the trouble !!!! Typical lol

**Ali56** · 26-07-2013, 09:37 PM

I threatened my 11 yr old with the local sports centres activity club yesterday!! First day of the hols and she was awful! Normally shes quite good and I know the come down from leaving primary school had a lot to do with it, but after 3 hours of 'im bored', foot stamping and general hideousness I couldn't take any more! Told her she could go and be bored there if she liked.... lol she soon perked up and snapped out of it!! I hate when our our own kids play up, its so stressful.

**SJ35** · 26-07-2013, 10:03 PM

I had a family ages ago not sign up because my 5yr old was being such a pain. So now I make sure she's out!
I had 5 kids here all day wed and thurs and the only two I had to moan at were my own too! I told them I was going to send them to a different childminder if they carried on and deduct the fees from their pocket money! They've been a bit better today! Xx

**smurfette** · 26-07-2013, 11:21 PM

Originally Posted by PRINCESSDAISYFLOWER

I can sympathise. My 4 yr old has scared off a lovely family with their baby, generally being boisterous then repeatedly telling them that they cant bring their child when its sick "mummy gets angry when parents bring sick children, why cant parents just keep them at home"

Woah! Killed with honesty! My girls would say that too!!