Originally Posted by
Mouse
It's tricky because a) you knew the holiday dates and had written them in your diary (assuming the dates the child told you were correct) and b) you told parents it was probably your fault and you would refund them.
Personally, when the child told you they were going on holiday, I would have checked the dates with parents before writing them in my diary. I know some will say it's not our place to ask parents and they should tell us, but I can't do with the wait and see approach so ask things like that straight out.
As for saying it was probably your fault, try to practice taking a breath before you say anything and don't blurt anything out without thinking. You live to regret it! I used to have parents wanting to swap days, take extra holiday etc and I'd agree to it straight away. Even while I was saying "that's fine" I was kicking myself and wishing I had more confidence to say no. Over time I've learnt to say "it should be OK, but I need to get back to you about it". I say it automatically now, even when I know it's fine and I don't need time to think about it!
It's now going to be harder to go back to parents and say they do need to pay, but if they haven't given you the correct notice (even if you did know the dates from the child), you should do it. I would explain to them that you have checked your diary and all emails and there is no mention of them having told you their holiday dates. Therefore you will have to charge them full fees as per the contract. I would also use it as the perfect time to remind them of some of the other points in the contract (early and late arrival) and decide whether or not you want to carry on doing the favours.