Your own children in the setting! sorry long
Hi, I am having a few issues with my 5 (almost 6 year old) daughter - and am wondering if I am expecting to much from her! We have been minding since she was 13 months - and 2 children who originally joined us when she was 19 months are still with us know so she has grown up with them - other children have came and gone. So she doesn't really remember life without minding. most of the time she is happy with what we do and glad that she has the other children her age to play with, but that's where it ends - she doesn't like how certain restraints are put on her 'because of minding' and she doesn't really like having the younger children about.
Now this morning mum drops off 3 year old -and My daughter and the other 5 yo that has been here all along were playing with a house and figures that were from my daughters room -they play great and share together lovely -but 3 yo wanted to play. My dd didn't want her to (as you know 3 year olds don't often play how an almost 6 year old would like) so 3 yo was upset, and mum wouldn't leave while she was upset over this - so I asked my dd if she could play - and she kicked off saying she didn't want her to play etc. Should I expect her to let the 3yo play? how do you handle this - know it would in there eyes 'spoil' the game? It's still the same if I don't allow her her own toys down - if the older ones set up a game with something and a younger one wants to join in they don't want them to etc....
Am I expecting my daughter to be an entertainment item in the setting and have to play with the others? can she choose to play with some children and not others? how do I handle this. I think I have lost what I should be doing and so busy trying to keep existing mindees happy - in the worry that they will leave and go elsewhere if they are not happy here. So am I being too hard on my daughter to keep mindees happy - at the expense of her happiness.
BTW she doesn't like playing in her room on her own, so even tho she has the option to get away from the mindees, she doesn't want to go up when the other 5 year olds are downstairs.
Seem to be having lots of trouble at the moment with her behavior and it all revolves around her dealings with mindees and me expecting her to keep them happy - which is unfair! Think I just need someone to tell me how they deal with their own children and minding - age differences etc.
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