Support /advice would be helpful -
I have looked after 2 yr old for a while now and she has always been fairly anxious. She has becone quite attached to me. trying so hard to help her. she is a smart cookie, doing so well with everything except emptional/social skills. It's been a tough week!! And it's only Wednesday!
Whenever I leave room she gets upset. She generally sticks nxt to me everywhere we go. She gets upset if she can't see me at playgroup type environments, or on school run. She gets upset if other children try to communicate with get or show her affection. She sometimes lashed out at children. I do of course reassure her 'it's ok they are saying hello' etc and 'we do not hit/ push'. She also now doesn't like wind or rain, crying on school run as it was raining. Very little resilience to difficult situations. Help!
Both days I have her this week... we've had big grizzles. Yesterday meltdown when another child was listening to something she wanted to (they all could listen but think she got possessive about who is doing what). Then cried on school run as was raining. Playgroup crying as I was sitting with a baby.
Today crying as it was raining, crying when another child said hello to her, another child tried to help her with her coat. I had to let go f her hand in playground as pushing buggy - she screamed! I just don't follow it.
I am meeting parents for her review in a few weeks and this is the area we always try to work on. I'm starting to feel I'm fighting losing battle, maybe this is just her personality. Ive never known a child like this. I really thought if we got her to socialise, she would improve. some subtle improvements but still lots of situations are a big challenge.
I feel mean for feeling frustrated but feeling like she is controlling what I do with who and has to be on her terms or she gets upset. This does upset the other children, they ask why is she upset? i say she is tired/sad/ not feeling well. It's exhausting!!!
Mum is expecting, due soon so she will be leaving and have to say I'm kind of looking forward to it. I feel so guilty saying it... as when it's just us 2 we have lovely time. She is only child at moment and has mum and dad to herself, mum is anxious parent which has rubbed off on her. I think they carry her, so is used to having someone close to her.... All factors I'm sure.
Can anyone relate to this? I feel like nothing I do will really help her in the long term..?
How should I put it across to parents. I'm thinking maybe under play it a bit as font want to add to their issues. Or should I be brutally honest? I generally tell then if we've had a situation so shouldn't be a shock. I think parents look to me as knowledgable expert if that makes sense and don't want then to feel too negative or sad about how she is doing.
