HELP!!! New baby mindee problems

**Jayne Walters** · 18-09-2014, 09:21 PM

Hi, does anyone have any experience in minding babies (just under a year old) who have never been apart from parents, never socialised with other children and never slept anywhere except on parents or with parents. What do you do if you have other mindees and can't carry the baby round all day? If every time you put the baby down or one of the other children gets too close s/he cries and will not sleep unless s/he is lying on me?

Please help!!! My children were dragged around baby groups from day one and slept in their own bedrooms at 6 months - I have no experience with this.

Thanks

Jayne

**natlou82** · 18-09-2014, 09:42 PM

I know they ll be plenty of advice to come on this. I would say go with the flow, I think a few will suggest a sling to keep baby close for a while whilst keeping hands free. The important thing is that baby builds a bond and begins to feel secure in your care. It can take time, I looked after a little one like this, after a few weeks we turned a huge corner, she is now completely settled with me and it's a total joy looking after her, good luck :-)

**Jayne Walters** · 18-09-2014, 09:48 PM

Thanks. I did think about the sling I had when my toddler was little but dismissed it as the baby is big and heavy but I will drag it down from the loft and give it a go next time. It's only temporary at the moment and only a couple of hours at a time and I think the long periods of time in between make it like starting from scratch every time.

**natlou82** · 18-09-2014, 09:59 PM

It does make it more difficult if there's long periods of time in between. Will this become a permanent contract down the line?

**gwm** · 18-09-2014, 10:24 PM

Whatever system you decide you use, you must get the parents to start implementing a schedule similar to yours. It will be very unfair of them to expect you to settle their little child as they continue with their 'normal' settling routine. They should be getting the little one into a routine that is consistant in both houses. You cannot be expected to ignore your other children while the baby is only looking for what it is used to.