It's a bit of a long story but i'll try my best not to go on and on! I had a new child start with me in September. His mother told me that she thought he would probably take a while to settle in as he is quite highly strung. He had never been left with anyone before he came to me for the first time, not even his Dad or grandparents! The arrangements are that he comes to me for 3 full days a week. I meet his father at the school gates in the mornings and then drop him off in the afternoons at his house which is next to the school. I do not have any face to face contact with this little ones mum. My main gripes are
*I have now had this little one for over 3 months and he is not settling well at all. He seems very anxious and cries at the slightest thing. The phone ringing or another child offering him a toy is enough to start him crying and he is inconsoloble. Any ideas how to build his confidence, i hate to see him so distressed
* He has had a constant stream of colds and virus's since he started with me and he still comes even when he is clearly not well enough. his father always says that he is teething not ill. He comes most days dosed up with calpol, nurofen and quite often both. 3 weeks ago 2 of my 3 children ended up with an awful virus with very high temperatures that this little one had had the week before, again explained away as teething
* last week the mother phoned the evening before he was due to come to me saying that he had had a sickness bug on the friday but was better now. i explained the 48hour exclusion rule and she assured me he had been fine for over 48hours. When i collected him in the morning this little one's dad accused my daughter of spreading this bug to his entire family.( we had not even had bug!) This little one was cranky all week and on his last day of the week his dad explained that his wife still had bug and now had to send a stool sample. I was quite miffed that i had had their son cranky all week while his mum was at home but kept quiet yet again! Anyway my 2 younger ones ended up with the sickness bug all weekend which then spread to my husband as well. Needless to say i was unable to open my setting on monday morning and the parents of this little one were very cross that i had let them down
* his father is very arrogant and often extremely rude, i never answer back as i hate conflict and am unsure how to react.
* When i drop him off to his house in the evenings i often have to wait several minutes for his father to answer the door even though i can see him sitting on the sofa through the window!
Any advice on the best way to deal with these parents would be gratefully received, i'm at a complete loss as to what to do! I've been childminding for nearly 7 years and have never been in this situation before. what really gets my goat is that this woman used to be a childminder (only for 6 months though!)
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