Poor Mindee :(

[Tink]

One of my mindees is 8 years old and his Mum has told him there is no Santa
I was shocked yesterday when I said we will have to write our Christmas letters and he said I won't bother and was so sad, then I revealed why he didn't want to write one and I didn't know what to say.
He said Christmas is ruined. I spoke to Mum and she said well he is old enough to know now anyway but is he? maybe it's just me but Christmas is magical and i'm not sure what age is appropriate, but what age do you think is right?

[miffy]

I don't know if there is any right age, most children find out from other schoolies or older siblings. I can't believe his mum actually told him - poor kid

Miffy xx

[Pipsqueak]

OH i find that heartbreaking - my kids figured it out by year 5 and I made sure I told them by end of year 6 just to confirm.

I would tell him that the magic of Christmas is still there for the taking etc

[FussyElmo]

My dd told me last year she knew there was no santa and she was year 7 Ds is year 6 and no i havent told him probably most of his friends have but no I wouldnt tell an 8 year old

[WibbleWobble]

katie is 19 and STILL believes - a bit- she hedges her bets.

(katie has autism and globel delay which put her at about 10)


she still does a letter to santa and a list....but now she does it all on her i phone!

mandy xxx

[kindredspirits]

couldn't she have waited until after xmas?
My DS is 4 and we have never done the santa thing but I would never dream of telling a child that believed something like this unless it was mid-June! lol

[Ali56]

Aww Bless him poor little man. I would never take away the magic, its so lovely. That is very sad. DD is 91/2 and is a borderline believer now. But still loves all the magic and fun of the letters etc. All my kids only ever ask for one thing or a few little things. We'll make sure she knows before secondary school, but until then the magic lives on!

[auntym]

I tell my kids Santa is real regardless of age lol. my daughters teen friends get told by me even now - if you don't believe you won't get :-P mum very mean to tell him that

[Narnia34]

That's so sad!

My little lad is 13 and still believes, sort of.

He's also Autistic and I think it's his way of keeping the magic alive. Then again, I'm 40 and somewhere at the back of my mind I still believe!

[chez]

I think deep inside us we all like to believe in a little magic, and chirstmas is no expetion. Its so sad that shes told him. Lets hope she also had the chat of not telling younger children or there maybe some more upset children out htere

[The Juggler]

ds has just figured it out and he just turned 12. I found out at 8 cos my brother told me but we still had santa stockings until we were teenagers

so sad that a mum feels she has to tell them - I think I might have told ds this year as he's in high school but not at 8

[the happy house]

My son knew early on... He was about 6 when he said, "It's you really, isn't it mum?". I wasn't going to lie, but managed to 're-frame' what santa is.
So, he now knows that I am his santa, and other children have their own santa. (Although my bf keeps reminding us that santa is actually a fascist as he doesn't visit third world countries - but that's another story!).

[amanda1309]

My dd is 9 and still believes. I don't know if she really believes or is just worried if she doesn't she won't get anything

[Helen Dempster]

that made me feel so sad - poor little chap obviously still 'believed' - why would you ruin that? Kids grow up so quickly these days, let them have that magic in their lives - it's only once a year for goodness sake. He'll find out all too soon from school friends anyway, but even then he would probably still not be 100% sure. Now he's heard it from his mum, that must have broken his little heart

[~Chelle~]

My youngest son is 9 and still believes, but does keep asking if he is real as some kids at school say he isn't My oldest is almost 13 and stopped believing when he left juniors. He still keeps up the pretence, so that he doesn't ruin things for his brother.

It is always up to the child to decide whether they believe or not, think the mum on this occasion has not been very fair at all

[kellib]

My son is 6 and still fully believes, I can't believe any mother would ruin Christmas for their child like that

I'm 26 and I still get a stocking so he must be real!

[Tink]

It was awful. Mum also commented saying I'll have a word with him to make sure he doesn't tell any of the others!!! but his little face, I wish she had kept her mouth shut.
I am going to try my best to keep his spirit of Christmas but it's going to be difficult as I don't want him to think his Mum is a liar if you know what I mean!

[ozzy10]

How awful she told him that.

I've a little sister (not so little now) but there is 10 yearsbetween us and I used to go to santa with her and tell him what i would like right up till I left home at 20! I couldnt spoil it for anyone, my little boy is 20months and I keep pointing santa out and talking about him, taking him on a train his favourite and santa will be on too on christmas eve! Think I'm more excited than him at the minute!

[JCrakers]

Ds was about 6yrs. I'd ordered some things from Tesco Direct but had nipped out to Sainsburys leaving hubbie with the kids.
I came back and Tesco had been. Hubbie had answered the door and taken the boxes in that were all plain. DS had asked what the boxes were and instead of hubbie telling him ' Oh theyre mums' or some other story he told him that they were christmas presents that Mum had bought because Santa didnt really bring presents...... When I got in I could have ****** killed him

I was greeted at the door by DS saying , Hi Mum, Dad says santa isnt real...what have you bought?

MEN!!!!!!!!

[boxtree7]

We don't do santa lists or lots of presents but my daugther when she was in year 6 use to argue with whoever told her there no such thing as santa -Why do parents have to tell theres no santa !!! I wouldn't tell any of my children !! No santa no presents !!!