help what should i do?

[foxy lady]

here we go with my problem.
i had a lady come around to see me a few weeks ago. she wanted a place for september for her little boy who will be 9 months old. for 3 days a week.
i have the space for him and if i took him on i would be full, the problem is she wanted a 7.45 start which i agreed to althought i dont really start untill 8. then on tuesday she called and said it would be a 7.30 start, my partner is really not happy about this and says i should stick to my 8am start. so i called her back yesterday to tell her that i would not be able to take him, she wasnt in so i left a message on her answerphone. she has just called me back and begged me to have him FROM 7.30 she says she will pay me an extra £10 a day for that half an hour. my parntner was adiment that i should stick to 8am as i am almost full and can pick and choose now, i really dont want to start that early as i never finish before 6pm.but i feel really bad for the lady and the money will be really good.
WHAT SHOULD I DO????
please help me to decide i said i would call her back on monday to let her know
thanks foxy

[Twinkles]

Well it sounds like you really don't want to do it.
But I would see it as an extra £120 per month.

Sorry that hasn't helped much has it

[mrsbumbles]

Take it, take it, take it!!!!!!!!

1/2 hour is'nt that much difference!!!!!

I start at 1/2 seven and its not that bad, you'll soon get use to it

[sarah707]

Iwould say, if you are full and it will cause problems between you and your partner then it's not a good idea... you need his support.

Good luck with your decision

[crazybones]

Its a hard one. I would do it personally because I need the money. I am up and ready anyway and my hubby has gone. I have a 7.45 drop off but it gets earlier and seems to be 7.30 now. I cant say much because its my sister If you dont need to do it you will start resenting getting up that much earlier.

[Splish Splosh]

I would do it as you never know whats around the corner, goodluck whatever you decide.

[miss muffit]

I have one that starts at 7.30 3 times a week and he never gets to me until 7.45.
only you can decide what to do, have another word with your partner
by the way congratulations on your outstanding ofsted inspection, (your bigger sis told me)

[Noodles]

I would do it for that much extra a day but at the end of the day it is no good if it doesnt fit in with your family

[SimplyLucy]

If you do take it, make sure the £10 a day extra is written into the contract, just so she can't go back on her word!

You'll need the full support of your partner, is he not tempted by the £30 a week extra..........give him half for a few pints!

I start at 6.30am 5 days a week inc bank holidays.........I'm MAD!

[HilaryT]

I should ask your partner why he doesn't want a 7.30 start. It's not every day, and there will be times when he doesn't come at all.

Several of mine are supposed to come at 7.30 but often don't - just if you do take the extra payment make sure she has to pay it whether the child comes that day or not!

Good luck
Hilary

[miffy]

You sound as though you don't want that early a start and your partner definitely doesn't want you to so it may cause friction with him and you may come to resent starting that early

The money is good but if you are not sure then don't do it

Why not compromise with a month's trial and see how it goes then if it really doesn't suit you needn't carry it on

miffy xx

[Kelly]

I start at 7.30 every day. I would be like you and very tempted to take this LO but £30 a week is not worth it if its going to cause hassle between you and your other half. My husband thinks I start to early, but some of my parents are in the Army and start work at 7.45 so it is difficult to say no.

If you can cope with always being told 'I told you not to do it' when your feeling tired/unwell/wanting a lie in/when they arrive at 7.20 then go for it!

Kelly

[littlewonders]

Go for it! It would give you maximum earnings and it is only half hour earlier than you want to start and only 3 days a week.

[angeldelight]

Difficult

But........

I had a child who started earlier than my normal start a few weeks ago - my hubby did not want me to do it either

But I did

He turned out to be a crying child - drove me crazy and the earlier starts made me more tired

So I had to end the contract not long after

Thing is say if you do it and this child turns out to be the same? Or worse arrives 10 min earlier than contracted time every day or something

You sound like you are happy with the hours that you work now anyway

So I think you should not do it

Money is not everything

Good luck whatever you decide I am sure the parent will find someone else

Angel xx

[jmoff]

I start at 7.30am 4x/week. Its ok as long as I am organised but I would be up anyway as I have a 18mnth old but then I finish at 5pm most days.

Good luck with whatever you decide. I would probably do it as I always feel bad and dont want to let people down.

Did you like the child?

Good uck with your decision.
Jana x

[ruby]

we start at 7.30 every day so it wouldn't be a problem for us
but saying that i agree if its going to cause problems with you and your partner then i would think seriously about taking the child

maybe as some else said do a month trial

best of luck with what ever you decide


cathy

[wendywu]

If you dont do it, make the reason because YOU dont want to do it. I would start at 7.30 if i had to but not before that time. But i must admit i would not, not do just because my other half did not want me to.

Sit down and discuss it with him, maybe put the extra money towards a nice treat for both of you. A weekend away maybe.

[susi513]

I'm starting at 7:30 at the moment and I have started at 6:30. But I know what works for me isn't going to suit everyone else. I can play with mindee in playroom and my family have privacy in kitchen & lounge to sort themselves out for school & work. So it doesn't really affect them unless I get a screamer.

But for childminders who have to sort out breakfasts/packed lunches/school bags for their own children or who have a hubby/partner who fancies a legover I mean appreciates quality conversation over a quiet cuppa and breakfast its a different matter. Childminder's families have to put up with a lot of c**p - calls from parents at all hours, parents who plonk themselves on settee when hubby's program is about to start ... sure we could fill a book on that. So sometimes you have to put your family first to keep the balance and avoid resentment building up.

If you really don't want to start before 8 then don't be pressured into it. Much easier to say than to do but just say sorry, no can't do it. Its easier to say no now than to give someone notice later on. They have plenty of time between now and September to keep looking for someone else.

If you might be willing and its just your partner's viewpoint that's stopping you then I guess it all boils down to their reasons and whether you agree with them or not. As I said, sometimes you have to put your family first. Or come to some sort of compromise - if you could do 1 day a week and (assuming its a 2 parent family) is there any possibility the parents might be able to start and finish later one day a week each?

[susi513]

I don't know why I put that in. Can't remember the last time dh & I had a quality cuppa in the morning lol.

[Alibali]

I think this is something only you can decide, no amount of money is enough if it causes upset in you family life. I think most of us do this job so we are here for our families, and if it ends up affecting your relationship then I personally wouldn't do it. Weigh up pros and cons and take it from there.

Good luck on whatever you decide and keep us posted.

Ali xx