Maybe going to rock the boat here - but
can't believe that minded children are being left to cry - or only picked up if stopped crying.
Minded children are not just left to cry or only picked up if stoppedI am hoping that I have misunderstood the posts - but if I haven't here goes.
It is my opinion that whatever the reason the child is crying for - there is a reason - even if the reason is that used to being picked up all the time.
Naturally as busy childminders we can not carry children around all day - but we should help these children adjust to the situation that they find themselves in -
not just let them cry I don't just let them cry, the mindee cries after thought out planned activities to keep them stimulated(child could end up with long term issues with self esteem and insecure attachments).
I have had children who have cried loudly and constantly when first start but careful planning of day (reducing outings to minimum and having lots of free play / activities that I do not have to directly supervise/ preparing meals as much as possible before start of minding day and so on) means that I have been able to sit on the floor and play with the children, giving them time to get to know me and the routines of my setting.
I do of course sometimes have to leave the room to go to the toilet or attend to another child's needs - but limit these as much as possible -
I refuse to limit the other mindee's needs, as a group here we are all equal & I believe that's only fair...I'd hate the thought of my child being forgotten about because other children are more prone to crying and praise the child verbally and with a cuddle when I return to the room -just for being without me (even if did scream)
Just for the record all the children that I have cared for have settled and stopped crying within a couple of weeks.
Leaving them to cry is not the only option.Penny
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