suspended mindee???

**emmadines** · 20-05-2010, 05:34 PM

I have him the whole day, I don't mind. I have said to mum that its no point him playing and having fun..... so we have both agreed that he will have some homework from school and spend the day doing that! the only prob is I have made plans to spend time with my little girl with some friends at the local country park. would you say it be fair to just take the work with us and let him get on with it????

what would you do? cancel going out with my DD??

Pipsqueak · 20-05-2010, 05:37 PM

take the work with you. i would perhaps allow him a little 10 minute break here and there

**emmadines** · 20-05-2010, 05:38 PM

Originally Posted by Pipsqueak

take the work with you. i would perhaps allow him a little 10 minute break here and there

yeah thats what I was planning

**huggableshelly** · 20-05-2010, 05:39 PM

I say take it with you too

**little_gems** · 20-05-2010, 07:33 PM

i'd explian to mum. I'm sure she'll understand. i'd just carry on with my plans.

**Hebs** · 20-05-2010, 08:12 PM

did you know it is iegal to take a suspended child out and about during school hours?

just thought you'd might want to know

i wouldnt take a suspended child for care, the whole point is for it to be an inconvience to parents to get them to deal with the behaviour that led to the suspension

Pipsqueak · 20-05-2010, 08:15 PM

oh I didn't know that hebs

**Hebs** · 20-05-2010, 08:20 PM

Originally Posted by Pipsqueak

oh I didn't know that hebs

yeah

it states.......

•your duty during the first five days of any exclusion to ensure that your child is not present in a public place during normal school hours, whether in the company of a parent or not

taken from the direct.gov website

http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents/...ool/DG_4016112

**Tired** · 20-05-2010, 08:22 PM

Why is it illegal? It seems a bit of overkill.
He is suspended from school, not under house arrest!

Surley they can't expect everyone to change thier plans cos 1 child has behaved badly.

**Hebs** · 20-05-2010, 08:25 PM

Originally Posted by Tired

Why is it illegal? It seems a bit of overkill.
He is suspended from school, not under house arrest!

Surley they can't expect everyone to change thier plans cos 1 child has behaved badly.

because he is suspended for bad behaviour, taking him (or her) out and about is almost like encouraging him to misbehave at school,

you are teaching them.... be naughty, get suspended, stay off have fun.......

why is that overkill???

**wendywu** · 20-05-2010, 08:28 PM

Why was mindee suspended and how old are they, as a matter of interest

Pipsqueak · 20-05-2010, 08:29 PM

given what you have pointed out Hebs - I see the reasoning behind it.
but in this instance - why should the minder have to suffer - perhaps the OP should tell the parent that they will have to have them at home for that time as they shouldn't be wrecking their own childs day out

**Hebs** · 20-05-2010, 08:32 PM

Originally Posted by Pipsqueak

given what you have pointed out Hebs - I see the reasoning behind it.
but in this instance - why should the minder have to suffer - perhaps the OP should tell the parent that they will have to have them at home for that time as they shouldn't be wrecking their own childs day out

thats why i said as a childminder i wouldn't take a suspended child for childcare, maybe mum needs to stay at home and deal with the issues that caused the suspension

**Ripeberry** · 20-05-2010, 08:53 PM

Hebs does have a point. Suspension is punishement for the child and the parents it seems.
If parents lose money because of their children's misbehaviour, they may deal more effectively with the child.
I would cancel if I was you or stay in all day, which is a pity with such nice weather.
If mum starts moaning then show her the statement on the website and say that you would be needing double time fees to make up for the inconvenience.

I don't know why suspended kids can't go to some kind of 'special' school for the week?

**emmadines** · 20-05-2010, 09:01 PM

mum is trying her damndest to deal with him, but is hitting a brick wall, mindee has a very firecracker temper and his way of dealing with it is to try to get out of school, its only been this last two weeks hes acted this way, normally is is like your average 8 year old. mums at breaking point and we think hes trying to get more attention off of her, so we are trying it another rout, Im going to have him and next time collect him if it happens again, and sit with him and do school work or attend to my youngest while hes at the table.
mindee is in no way going to be having fun nor mixing with the other children while they are playing.. the school are giving him work to continue in the mean time. .. It not ideal but shes at a loss as to what to do.. any suggestions???

**Hebs** · 20-05-2010, 09:01 PM

remember suspension is always a last resort, if all else has failed to recetify the behaviour

**emmadines** · 20-05-2010, 09:02 PM

Originally Posted by Ripeberry

Hebs does have a point. Suspension is punishement for the child and the parents it seems.
If parents lose money because of their children's misbehaviour, they may deal more effectively with the child.
I would cancel if I was you or stay in all day, which is a pity with such nice weather.
If mum starts moaning then show her the statement on the website and say that you would be needing double time fees to make up for the inconvenience.

I don't know why suspended kids can't go to some kind of 'special' school for the week?

its also not fair that my own daughter misses out playing with her friends.

**emmadines** · 20-05-2010, 09:03 PM

Originally Posted by Hebs

remember suspension is always a last resort, if all else has failed to recetify the behaviour

hes only been suspended for tomorrow as far as Im aware he will be back on Monday as the norm.

**Hebs** · 20-05-2010, 09:04 PM

Originally Posted by emmadines

mum is trying her damndest to deal with him, but is hitting a brick wall, mindee has a very firecracker temper and his way of dealing with it is to try to get out of school, its only been this last two weeks hes acted this way, normally is is like your average 8 year old. mums at breaking point and we think hes trying to get more attention off of her, so we are trying it another rout, Im going to have him and next time collect him if it happens again, and sit with him and do school work or attend to my youngest while hes at the table.
mindee is in no going to be having fun nor mixing with the other children while they are playing.. the school are giving him work to continue in the mean time. .. It not ideal but shes at a loss as to what to do.. any suggestions???

i know it's hard as my friend is going through the same with her 15 year old daughter, but mum really needs to (with help and support) to get this lad back on track, cos if she cant deal with his behaviour now at 8 years old how is she going to cope when you add in hormones and peer pressure from friends when he hits his teens??

get her to ring supernanny?