I look after many after school children. Yesterday I had a new starter, an absolutely smashing little girl who was very happy and comfortable with me but a little nervous when it came to picking my older children up from school (shes only 4). 2 of the children i look after are brothers, one is nearly 11 and one is nearly 10. They are both, and have always been challenging children in as much as that they are very streetwise and if left in the wrong hands you just know they would go off the rails and be smoking and drinking in no time (and im not exaggerating, i know that the one was encouraged to try smoking aged 7 by his horrible father who they are now estranged from.) They have had a difficult upbringing but the mother is fantastic and does the very best for them. I have had many occasions on which i have been at the receiving end of these 2 boys mood swings. The eldest is the most troublesome. He can be very sweet and endearing at times but it is usually short lived and usually to get his own way about something. I have the patience of a saint and am very strong and have been proud to see these boys become more polite nad helpful as they have been with me but after over a year of looking after them yesterday was the straw that nearky broke my back. Walking home from schoool with the new little one I had introduced her to them all and explained to them thta she was very nervous and to be super nice and friendly. Eldest one stomped home in a vile mood about something giving off general bad/scary vibe, youngest boy then taunted him about something to which eldest replied 'what the hell'. I snapped at him....'errrm excuse me, you watch your mouth please, i find that very inappropriate.' To which he replied (muttered) 'why dont you go walk into a wall.' he did a lot more as well that i cant tell you all of it, kicking walls, just general horrible behaviour. When we got home I settled the new girl to play out of ear shot and I did go quite mad at the children for being so awful, eventually they apologised although it was rather unconvincing. I then made our snack as I usually do, called all the childern for snack. I felt a pat at my side to find new starter in floods of tears and saying she didnt want to eat with them because they scared her. I let her eat in the lounge to calm down and then her Mum picked her up. On top of this, the boys (yobbish) mates then started calling for them at MY house to come out and play. I said no way and i didnt want them coming again....to get a whole new set of mutterings stamping around being vile.
It was just such an awful afternoon, I feel so bad and like i just want to get rid of them!!!!I dont deserve to be treated like this and neither do the other very well behaved children ion my care. I dont want to just give up on them but I want to protect me and my reputation as a business at the same time. How should I deal with them, does anyone have any soothing words of wisdom to help me? x
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