Don't Agree With Mum!

[anneriddington]

The fisher price potty looks great but how will I get it by my husband who already has to fight his way past the potty, training seat and double step to get to the downstairs toilet

[Tatia]

Mum has just picked up S. Explained to her how they day has gone. Her response was "Oh I'll stick a nappy back onher then"

I do feel like Ive been used better me putting in the effort than mum!!

Well, at least she didn't insist on carrying on so that's something, I suppose.

I'm writing a policy regarding potty training right now. I have a 2 1/2 year old boy who only ever comes in pull-ups but is not the least bit interested in the toilet or the potty. I find the pull ups annoying because he's such a heavy wetter he is always wetting through his clothes (or my sheets at nap time) and she never brings spare clothes. I ask and he says no so I preempt and set him on the toilet (or potty) and he cries. I'm sensing there are major issues about it at home so I'm trying very hard not to push him too hard, bless.

I think my my policy will be a lot like Sarah's and that is a child has to be fairly reliable for me to take them in knickers. This means the bulk of the work is the parent's responsibilty and not mine! I don't mind backing them up and providing encouragement and support whilst they are training and I don't mind accidents when they are accidents and not regular occurances (which signals the child is not ready).

[anneriddington]

I completely agree Tatia, I don't have a potty training policy in place YET but and going to get one done this week.

[tulip0803]

When my daughter turned 2 there were several other little girls in the village the same age - One mum announced that her daughter was out of nappies so another thought that her daughter should be too. Both these girls WERE out of nappies at 2 but they were not potty trained I spent my entire day at work trailing a bucket and mop behind me as they just wet on the floor. This went on for over a year. I left mine until 2 and a half took a week of work and she was dry night and day within 3 days.

Why do parents think these things are a race and at 2 a switch flicks and the child is automatically ready? They think it is a race when there are others the same age and it really annoys me when they all keep comparing

Juliaxx

[crazybones]

When my daughter turned 2 there were several other little girls in the village the same age - One mum announced that her daughter was out of nappies so another thought that her daughter should be too. Both these girls WERE out of nappies at 2 but they were not potty trained I spent my entire day at work trailing a bucket and mop behind me as they just wet on the floor. This went on for over a year. I left mine until 2 and a half took a week of work and she was dry night and day within 3 days.

Why do parents think these things are a race and at 2 a switch flicks and the child is automatically ready? They think it is a race when there are others the same age and it really annoys me when they all keep comparing

Juliaxx

Well said

Annie x

[emmadines]

When my daughter turned 2 there were several other little girls in the village the same age - One mum announced that her daughter was out of nappies so another thought that her daughter should be too. Both these girls WERE out of nappies at 2 but they were not potty trained I spent my entire day at work trailing a bucket and mop behind me as they just wet on the floor. This went on for over a year. I left mine until 2 and a half took a week of work and she was dry night and day within 3 days.

Why do parents think these things are a race and at 2 a switch flicks and the child is automatically ready? They think it is a race when there are others the same age and it really annoys me when they all keep comparing

Juliaxx

if my 2 year old didnt show any interest then i wouldnt have started! its true what you say tho!! ppl do seem to treat it as a race!

i have a friend whos son was one day out of nappeis and when ever it was mentioned all I got was "he is dry both day and night"
I know its possible but this boy supposedly never wets himself (he was 2 in October) we all know kids have accidents! but the point is! its always my blar blar blar can do better just like the race to potty train, "my child was dry before yours!! back to the school yard we go!!


emma

[littletreasures]

I think it depends on what the child is like rather than the age.

My eldest daughter was dry both day and night at 22 months. It took 3 days.

My son was dry at 2 1/2.

My youngest decided at 20 months one afternoon to take her nappy off. No nappy she said and that was it day and night.

If the child is ready it won't take long to do. If she isn't you're fighting a losing battle and the little girl you mind doesn't seem ready at all.

I would discuss with Mum and perhaps suggest she could have a go over the long Easter weekend at home. That will give her 4 days and if she is ready she could be dry by the time she came back. I would personally say unless she has been dry at home for 4-5 days without any accidents I will put her in nappies, especially if you have school runs, toddler groups and things happening.

Good luck.
Jules

[jmoff]

According to my mum , she started puttin me on the potty when I was abt 7-8 mnths old...but that's in the Czech rep where kids are usually out of nappies by 1 1/2 during the day and by 2 at night as nappies are expensive and when I was small , they were pain to wash I suppose.

Not that I have started with my daughter aged 16mnths!

Anyway, it is a different story with childminders as we have more than one child in our care and I really dont want stains on my beige carpet.

Good lkuck with that one, hope the mum gets it

Jana x

[Hopscotch]

I spent a whole 2 weeks last month potty training 3 toddlers, my son and 2 of the mindees, it was because one of the mindees started using the toilet and my son wanted to use it too.
Well as soon as the other mum found out she was like oh well you can sit X on there and see if he will go on there.
So for 2 weeks i had them running round with pants on heating on high so they didn't get cold and 2 potty's and the toilet asking and asking if X wanted to sit on there and he did not want to.
Then i found out that they were not doing it at home so i thought why should i bother i'm putting all this hard work in having little one peeing everywhere and you can't even be bothered to continue it at home.
He was clearly not ready and i now don't ask him as i am not going to pressure him to go on there if he wants he will do it when he is good and ready.
Why is it that we are expected to do all the hard work for them?.
Bev X

[miffy]

God i really don't see the point in trying to potty train children who are just not ready - it's much easier to wait until they begin to show some signs themselves

and I think it's up to the parents to make the effort not me - and i don't call 2 hours on a sunday afternoon before bringing them to me on monday much of an effort!!!

I also prefer summer to winter for potty training

Miffy xx

[michellethegooner]

parents like this get on my back up. I would defo speak to mum like you did and explain child does not seem ready..

I had an experience similiar last year I had a little girl just turned 2yrs who did not understand when she needed to 'go' and would say yes if she was asked if she needed a wee and then do nothing. mum would send her to me in a nappy but not provide any. After a week I politely explained to mum that I would only 'assist' potty training and steered her towards my policy of working in partnership with parents explaining that we should be consisent and if she wanted to have her child potty trained she would have to do her bit at home. well you could have blown me away when she replied that 'oh no cos she just wees every where and she doesnt listen to me' famin cheek I politely told her that she was doing the same at mine and I would only re try once I was happy that her d understood what was happening.... and if she didnt provide me with nappies I would have no choice but to purchase some myself and invoice her soon cleared up problem...
was really annoyed though as it became obvious that this parent was only happy with me doing all the work. worst part was her d was only with me 3 days a wk I explained that us childminders dont have magic wands that we wave that get their kids dry in a matter of days..

Michelle x

[Annie_T]

id would of used pull up which encourage the child to pul them down to wee instead of doing it in the pull ups.

2 does seem bit early to be in pants, but its the mother choice i guess.

and as for only one pair jeans - think that was over looked?!?

put my girl in pull ups and slowly introduced pants .. and like magic we had a ickle girl nappy free lol

[lindylou]

My grandaughter came out of nappies at 20 months my daughter at 18 months bot my son was 2 and 2 months this little girl does not seem ready
Apparantly it is a valve and when it is mature enough the child is ready this is what i read in a chilcare book
You would be better of telling mum this google it and then you have info to give her i would not use pull ups they are a waste of time the little girl will think she has still got nappes on and carry on wetting ect
Good luck with the mum Linxxxx

[Pudding Girl]

Haven't read the other replies so forgive me if I am repeating something

I think you have to do what the parent wants, no matter if you think it is not the right time. It is up to them to decide when to do these things, and our job to do our bit whatever.

Sorry if thats not what you wanted to hear!!

[emmadines]

id would of used pull up which encourage the child to pul them down to wee instead of doing it in the pull ups.

2 does seem bit early to be in pants, but its the mother choice i guess.

and as for only one pair jeans - think that was over looked?!?

put my girl in pull ups and slowly introduced pants .. and like magic we had a ickle girl nappy free lol

OMG I carry a small wardrobe with me for becky!! (thats waht it feels like!) not that we use them but if I only had one pair then I dould deff need another! sods law and all that!!!!!

[Cheeky Chops]

ooo a policy on potty training, argh!! I need one of these!!

I had a 2 yr old little boy whose mum just put him in pull ups and didnt tell me, when I came to change him he had leaked all out as the pullups were not as good as nappies, I was very annoyed I hadnt been told about this!! So i put him in pants and he pooed all over the floor! so then had to put him in nappies, then told mum about the day and she just shrugged and put him in pull ups again the next day without saying anything!! so yeah I need to get a policy on this!! hehe xx

[Sandie]

I want one, we could start a new game sing and wee