I will give you a little bit of background info first.
I met a lovely lady at my DS school 6 years ago and my DS was good friends with her DS. We have had a really good friendship ever since. She became pregnant with her second DS and she asked me if i would look after him.
At the time i wasn't a childminder but thought it would be a nice job to get into so i done all the relevant training etc and began caring for her son when he was five months old.
Things have always worked well between us and have never let our friendship interfere with our business relationship.
Jump forward 5 years. Mindee started school last September and obviously the amount of hours i had him were reduced to before and after school. This has still worked well for us.
My friend has a younger sister who looks after her older DS before and after school and has done for years (she is not a registered childminder) but from September he will be at secondary school and she will no longer need her sister (who she pays) to care for him. so the sister decided that to replace the older one she would look after the younger DS (my mindee) so she was still earning a bit of money (can't believe she charges to care for her nephew but that is a another story)
Anyway the problem is her sister has a drinking problem. I wouldn't go as far as saying she was a alchoholic but once she starts drinking she doesn't know when to stop and has, on a number of ocassions turned up at the school drunk. I have begged and pleaded with my friend not to send him to her sister because i don't think he will be safe but she didn't feel she could say no to her sister. We have had numerous conversations about this and she has told me many times how her sister was drunk when she would arrive to pick up her older DS. My mindee is not yet 5 years old and can be a bit of a handful and i am terrified she will not be in a fit state to care for him properly. They walk home from school so he could easily run into the road and she probably wouldn't even notice. When she drinks she becomes very aggressive and basically crashes out after a while leaving her own 3 kids to fend for themselves (the youngest one only being 15 months old)
I have asked my friend to think very carefully about this and to put the welfare of her DS first before her sisters feelings but today she turned up with my notice letter. I feel like i have failed and i know i will spend the whole time worrying when he is picked up from school by her.
Sometimes i feel like i want to report her to the school for turning up drunk but then they would get social services involved and my friend would know that it was me who complained because i go on about it so much. I think her sister is a disgrace and shouldn't be in charge of her own kids let alone somebody elses when she's been drinking.
Sorry for rambling on for so long. I don't think our friendship is going to cope with this, i am so dissappointed with her for putting her sisters feelings over her sons welfare. I feel like i have not only lost my mindee but also my best friend.
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