Do ou kiss your mindees?

**venus89** · 06-01-2009, 12:51 PM

Or is that a big 'No No'?

**chaotic_space** · 06-01-2009, 12:59 PM

I do and cuddle and snuggle and tickle and blow raspberries on bare tummies before I fasten a vest after a nappy change.

Parents choose a childminder over a nursery because they want their child to be cared for in a family enviornment.

**haribo** · 06-01-2009, 01:01 PM

i kiss my los all the time they love it and so do their parents ! how can a baby be with someone all day and not be kissed ? if anyoe sees anything bad in that they need their head examined sorry to upset anyone. one of mine has just lost her mum and while i in no way can replace her its been a good thing that we are so close and she has been getting a lot of extra kisses and cuddles x

**venus89** · 06-01-2009, 01:02 PM

I kiss mine too - it comes totally naturally. But I wasn't sure if it was actually allowed or not. I ddn't kiss them when Mrs OFSTED was there just in case!

**PixiePetal** · 06-01-2009, 01:09 PM

Yes I do and won't have anyone telling me not to!!

Lots of cuddles and snuggles in my house

LO 22months came back after Xmas break yesterday and everytime I asked what the would like to do he said 'cuddles' with a big grin. By no way do I take over from parents, when a child is comfortable with you it is natural and a compliment.

**Alibali** · 06-01-2009, 01:13 PM

Yes I do, babies are irresitable for kissing!!

Infact their parents say at the end of the day 'have you given Alison her kisses and cuddles'. Now if that's what the parents want what can anyone else say?

If you ask them 'who loves you?' they say Alison

**Alibali** · 06-01-2009, 01:14 PM

Oh, that said, I don't kiss my after schoolers

Just the wee ones, they outgrow wanting kisses

**haribo** · 06-01-2009, 01:16 PM

btw ,i did kiss one of mine whilst ofsted where here-didnt even think about it she came up to me for a cuddle and i kissed the top of her head . afterwards the ispectors remarked that i had a lovely natural way with the kids

so its obviously not frowned on - if it were id still do exactly the same lol

**sue m** · 06-01-2009, 01:16 PM

Oh yes, mine gets lots of kisses and cuddles too, Mum and Dad are fine with it.

**angeldelight** · 06-01-2009, 01:19 PM

Yes always

Kids love to kiss and cuddle and it makes them feel good and happy - nice for us too

Angel xx

**charleyfarley** · 06-01-2009, 01:24 PM

Kisses and cuddles in this house too.

Infact it takes 1 lo 10 mins to leave as he goes round kissing everyone at least twice.

Carol xx

**berkschick** · 06-01-2009, 01:26 PM

I kiss mine too and they kiss each other before they go for their naps.

They did this while the inspector was here and she wrote in my report how lovely it was that they had that kind of relationship.

**mandy moo** · 06-01-2009, 01:30 PM

Littlest one gets lots of kisses and cuddles it feels quite natural,

and I wouldnt stop unless he was uncomfortable with it.
The 4 1/2 yr old tho is a diffrent matter, it has never felt quite right,
That sounds awful but the few times Ive done so shes pulled away

If she falls and hurts herself, she doesnt let me comfort her.
I will persevere, but the last thing I want is her going home and saying that i was touching her, do you know what i mean, she is extremley bright for her age and vocablary is very good too, I just wouldnt want it sounding/coming out the wrong way!

**yummymummy** · 06-01-2009, 01:33 PM

I do kiss and show lots of affection to the little ones and my 6 year old mindee always gives me a kiss to say goodbye at the school gate. I feel that it is natural and if the children want to show you the affection it should not be rebuffed. We all hug and kiss goodbye too in front of the parents and I feel they feel happy that their children want to naturally do this too.
BUT at my last Ofsted inspection (coming up three years ago) it wasn't put on my report but when my 18 month mindee came and sat on my lap and kissed and cuddled me he remarked "I have no objection to displays of affection but other inspectors I know do so this may cause you problems in future inspections"
I should have said something but was so stunned I just kept quiet. A child should not be deprived of love and affection it is cruel and damaging in my opinion.

It's wrong isn't it that inspectors vary so much and their "opinions" shouldn't come into it but the same guidelines followed.

**Chatterbox Childcare** · 06-01-2009, 02:19 PM

I do too. If it is their face, it is always the cheek but they love their finger, toes and raspberries on the tummies too. Mine always have a kiss and cuddle when they arrive and leave.

**Polly2** · 06-01-2009, 02:23 PM

I do too! Thats what I love about our job - we get so close to the children we care for. I feel like they are part of my family and I think the parents choose us because of this.

**Rubybubbles** · 06-01-2009, 02:35 PM

sadly

not with the children I have now, I just can;t (that makes me sound horrid I know!)

But my last baby mindie and lo I looked after before I moved, used to run in and have a hug and kiss, kisses and snuggles before nap, and the baby would come up to me for a ''ess ess' I miss him so much, but his mum sent a lovely message over christmas from Germany (they moved too

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**Twinkles** · 06-01-2009, 02:41 PM

Like most of you I do kiss and cuddle mindees but if they are older when they come to me I let them set the 'rules' if you know what I mean. Babies and young children need physical contact to make them feel secure but you can't just start hugging a four/five year old that you don't know that well. having said that they are usually only with me for a couple of weeks before they initiate a hug or two.

I also have a 'Physical contact ' policy.

**fionamal** · 06-01-2009, 03:20 PM

The little girl I have has been coming since she was 5 months , she is now 2.5 and is very cuddley and has to kiss everyone before she goes home. (shes only here for 2 hours per day) If she sees me in Tesco she has to have a kiss and cuddle or even at the school gates in the morning when shes dropping her older sister off at school.

The 4.5 boy hates all contact even if hes hurt himself and is like this with his mum aswell at times. The nursery have made coments about it but just seems to be how he is.