I will also say: ....just defending my point of view!
My misunderstanding, for which I apologise unreservedly, I thought this
was what you were suggesting.
But in defence of those members who have understood similarly,
do please read the title of this thread: the entire premise of the OP's opening for this discussion is that "naughty" is a "forbidden word". So my understanding was this is what we were invited to discuss. I'm happy to be corrected if this is not what the title means, but if a child-carer can misinterpret a 4-word title, what chance does a 3yo have of understanding a thorough explanation of thier actions, morals and consequences?
I'd respectfully suggest this is because Mouse doesn't go off on one, and stated a reasonable and consistent argument (from a much shorter horse) and does not think herself immune to her own judgments.
The whole point IS that you can say whatever the trainers think is smart and right until the next time they change their tiny minds, but the important thing is: do children hear what we're saying and how do they interpret it? I'm reminded of a member stating quite categorically how her degree course had taught her how EY children will frequently only hear and successfully process
as few as two words from every sentence spoken to them.
Hence, our explanation "... to any child why WE FIND their behaviour unacceptable, not nice, not kind not appropriate and so on..." may well be heard and understood by that child as something along the lines of "...blah blah blah you blah blah blah blah blah not nice blah blah blah". Am I the only one who is concerned about the potential effect of that on a child?
I'm utterly astonished that one can have all the training, qualifications, and certificates in the world, and still have trainers and practitioners believing that a child's brain functions in exactly the same way as an adult's, with the same understanding and functionality. No matter what the weird world of childcare would like to believe, the scientific world knows that the entire upper frontal lobe, which deals with thinking ahead and controlling behaviour, is pretty much 'off-line' from any practical point of view in a young child. This takes the discussion way beyond the words we use or do not use: it makes us reconsider whether it is even worth addressing many 'unwanted behaviours' in many children until they reach the appropriate age /stage of development.
Am I the only one who struggles to understand your view on labels? The professed view of disliking labels does not sit well with the practice. I refer to the "you are................" comments that you regularly dispense, such as: sarcastic, arrogant, negative, unprofessional, condescending, ignorant, disrespectful, rude, offensive, inconsistent, critical, hypocritical.......
Sticks and stones...............
Small mercies, eh? It would be interesting to hear some other views on the genuine points I raised. It would be nice to hear some practical alternatives; views on alternatives; anything more than an assertion of superiority, really.
[Edited for my atroshuss spellign................. and a bit I forgot the first time.]
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