Hheeelllpppp please!!

[Maza]

Oh my word he sounds exactly like my little one. I had him from ten months and parents told me how much he loves his sleep. Great if that is your only child! He too couldn't sleep in a buggy and would scream and be bright red in the face, fists going etc. I was paranoid when out and about with him like that. I really tried to train him to have at least one of his daily sleeps in a buggy so that the other little ones would get out and about but it was soul destroying. We couldn't feed the ducks because his screaming would scare them away. We couldn't even have a conversation as we couldn't hear ourselves over him. If he did eventually drop off I would either be right at the end of the walk when we were heading home anyway or he would sleep for 20 minutes max. Once, he was on the verge of falling asleep in the buggy but then it started raining. I only had my DD and so I let her carry on playing while I continued pushing him to sleep. Some lady made a rude comment about what I was doing and I was so down after that. Anyway, after about a year he started going to a nursery two days a week and of course here he wasn't offered a silent, pitch black room to sleep in with a comfy cot! After a few weeks being there he could sleep anywhere! I still have him now (he's three next month) and he will sleep for up to three hours. If I have DD with me (holidays) then he sleeps in the buggy and we go to the park. On the days where I only have him then he sleeps in his comfy cot and I get loads done! A huge part of me does think I should have given notice though, because DD can never get back those days and I felt she was wasting away being stuck in our flat while he slept away twice a day. I am angry about that.

I would say, do not let him rule the roost. Either persevere so that he learns to sleep in a buggy if he needs so much sleep or give notice. x

[smurfette]

Oh my word he sounds exactly like my little one. I had him from ten months and parents told me how much he loves his sleep. Great if that is your only child! He too couldn't sleep in a buggy and would scream and be bright red in the face, fists going etc. I was paranoid when out and about with him like that. I really tried to train him to have at least one of his daily sleeps in a buggy so that the other little ones would get out and about but it was soul destroying. We couldn't feed the ducks because his screaming would scare them away. We couldn't even have a conversation as we couldn't hear ourselves over him. If he did eventually drop off I would either be right at the end of the walk when we were heading home anyway or he would sleep for 20 minutes max. Once, he was on the verge of falling asleep in the buggy but then it started raining. I only had my DD and so I let her carry on playing while I continued pushing him to sleep. Some lady made a rude comment about what I was doing and I was so down after that. Anyway, after about a year he started going to a nursery two days a week and of course here he wasn't offered a silent, pitch black room to sleep in with a comfy cot! After a few weeks being there he could sleep anywhere! I still have him now (he's three next month) and he will sleep for up to three hours. If I have DD with me (holidays) then he sleeps in the buggy and we go to the park. On the days where I only have him then he sleeps in his comfy cot and I get loads done! A huge part of me does think I should have given notice though, because DD can never get back those days and I felt she was wasting away being stuck in our flat while he slept away twice a day. I am angry about that. I would say, do not let him rule the roost. Either persevere so that he learns to sleep in a buggy if he needs so much sleep or give notice. x

Thanks Maza that's good advice.. I just feel it must be rough on the existing parents if every time I have to settle in a new little one I have to curtail our usual activities when they choose me
Exactly because I am out and about most days! Yesterday I think we reached a kind of compromise,, I let him sleep 8-10 then took him out and he was grand. I think maybe he forgets he has been woken up and he is tired if he is distracted! He didn't have as long as sleep at lunchtime as I would like (others go For 1-5 hours) but he doesn't disturb them and played really happily then I popped him down for 40 mins. Woke him for school run and he was ok Til 4ish when he got grumpy cos tired but no point putting him down as he was due to be picked up at 430. I am hoping if tired when leaving he will sleep on way home and might then go down to bed later and start to sleep later in the morning so won't be so grumpy when arrived, but if I can get him down and find a routine that works for me that's up to them! Lol dad said this am, he is now only crying for a minute or two then going to sleep (lol I wonder why?!) I don't think parents realise sometimes how much we help them!!

Will try this routine again today, might lift him a bit earlier so he might sleep earlier at lunch time

[loocyloo]

Thanks Maza that's good advice.. I just feel it must be rough on the existing parents if every time I have to settle in a new little one I have to curtail our usual activities when they choose me
Exactly because I am out and about most days! Yesterday I think we reached a kind of compromise,, I let him sleep 8-10 then took him out and he was grand. I think maybe he forgets he has been woken up and he is tired if he is distracted! He didn't have as long as sleep at lunchtime as I would like (others go For 1-5 hours) but he doesn't disturb them and played really happily then I popped him down for 40 mins. Woke him for school run and he was ok Til 4ish when he got grumpy cos tired but no point putting him down as he was due to be picked up at 430. I am hoping if tired when leaving he will sleep on way home and might then go down to bed later and start to sleep later in the morning so won't be so grumpy when arrived, but if I can get him down and find a routine that works for me that's up to them! Lol dad said this am, he is now only crying for a minute or two then going to sleep (lol I wonder why?!) I don't think parents realise sometimes how much we help them!!

Will try this routine again today, might lift him a bit earlier so he might sleep earlier at lunch time

my LO who is a poor sleeper is apparently always fantastic at going to bed and sleeps well the night after LO has spent the day with me! Mum says she thinks its because LO is so busy and stimulated ( so that what she does with LO the rest of the week ) but I thinks its probably because I put LO down for a sleep after lunch and LO sleeps for a couple of hours, as I don't get Lo up the moment they whimper! ( I say 'go back to sleep' ! ) I have said I think its down to the sleep, but apparently its not ! wish I could have LO another couple of days a week!

WELL DONE MURPHF! getting there! xx

[benandjerrys]

Might of missed your previous thread but why did dad want copies of your ID? Bizarre...

[smurfette]

Might of missed your previous thread but why did dad want copies of your ID? Bizarre...

Yes isn't it?! Apparently to make sure I was who I said I was.. A folder full of references and college Certs weren't enough lol! He wanted mine and my hubby's (who is a policeman!) and my registration cert.. He was a social worker and so is mum! I have no intention of running off with said child , have enough with three of my own! He backed down when I refused... Weird!

[smurfette]

my LO who is a poor sleeper is apparently always fantastic at going to bed and sleeps well the night after LO has spent the day with me! Mum says she thinks its because LO is so busy and stimulated ( so that what she does with LO the rest of the week ) but I thinks its probably because I put LO down for a sleep after lunch and LO sleeps for a couple of hours, as I don't get Lo up the moment they whimper! ( I say 'go back to sleep' ! ) I have said I think its down to the sleep, but apparently its not ! wish I could have LO another couple of days a week! WELL DONE MURPHF! getting there! xx

That's exactly it, he has slept well the night after I have had him.. It is because I don't lift him when he hasn't had enough sleep, like you I say go back to sleep!

Had a really good morning, Lo slept 8-9 then we went to the library and on to a free music class at the shopping centre, he was in really good form Til the end, ate his lunch and now sleeping!

[shortstuff]

That's exactly it, he has slept well the night after I have had him.. It is because I don't lift him when he hasn't had enough sleep, like you I say go back to sleep!

Had a really good morning, Lo slept 8-9 then we went to the library and on to a free music class at the shopping centre, he was in really good form Til the end, ate his lunch and now sleeping!

Im so pleased you are managing to get a pattern forming x

Murphf would you please empty your inbox? i tried to reply and cant x

[smurfette]

Im so pleased you are managing to get a pattern forming x Murphf would you please empty your inbox? i tried to reply and cant x

Sorry have emptied it now!

He is being a little whatnot now, has decided that 20 mins is enough of a nap to keep him going lol! Back to sleep he goes! We will get there ,
I can finally see light at the end of the tunnel! Will
Someone please remind me of this next time I have a new Lo starting?! I find that part Ssooo hard and think I will never get
Them in a routine and then one day it seems to fall into place!

[smurfette]

Well just an update ...

Baby settled down last week and touch wood we haven't looked back.. I pop him straight to bed when he arrives and he sleeps for an hour or so , if he doesn't wake I might leave him for a bit and pick him up and go straight out.. He doesn't seem to be miserable when woken if we go out and he is distracted and then he is ready to snooze again at lunch time.. Just working now on him having a longer nap at lunchtime cos sometimes he wakes after 40 mins but if I don't lift him as soon as he whimpers he goes back and I have to wake him for school run so I am winning yay! Seems to be happy for most of afternoon too. Lo and behold dad is now finding he can get him to sleep easier at night time 'he just cries for a couple of mins' and is napping him in buggy at weekend.. So I guess they are listening to me. I did suggest to mum they might push bedtime back by ten mins every few nights as he is waking at 430/5 having been in bed since 6/630! They only get home after 5! Will leave Til after hols and suggest to dad then as he is the one changing things at home. I am being super careful he doesn't get hurt though after the comments about the stones in the Garden lol!

How's all the other unsettled babes going?

[natlou82]

My end I'm still not having much success, baby has hit 9months clingy phase, and is only happy if I'm walking around with her on my hip, which is impossible! As soon as I put her down, even to play with toys, she cries even though I'm sat with her. Any thoughts help or advice would be really appreciated.