Who has been on holiday on their own?!

**CH1957** · 06-02-2013, 06:16 PM

As the title says. How did you find it? Im worried about what to do in the evenings when its meal times and sitting in the restaurant on my own! Pathetic I know. Ive got a holiday booked to go on Sunday and just found out that my other half has been having an affair for the past 11 years - thats longer than Ive been with him so I suppose technically that makes me the 'other woman'!!!!!

Dont know if Ive got the guts to go on my own.

**SammySplodger** · 06-02-2013, 06:21 PM

Oh no! That's awful - HUG

I'd still go and take time to really pamper myself (spa/hairdresser?) Best thing to do in restaurants if you are feeling uncomfortable is just to take something to keep you busy while waiting (book/newspaper), but yes, I'd definitely still go if it's booked.

Where are you going? Has HE paid for it?

**LauraS** · 06-02-2013, 06:40 PM

Wow, I'm speechless. I would go, it sounds like my idea of bliss. I'd spend a fortune in waterstones beforehand and spend my days eating, drinking, reading and being warm...

Do you think you would find it harder to be there, though, knowing that it's a holiday you planned together? Do you have a friend who could come and get squiffy and sunburnt with you?

**CH1957** · 06-02-2013, 06:43 PM

No friends to go with me, too short notice with work really.

**Tazmin68** · 06-02-2013, 06:48 PM

Many years ago I went on holiday twice on my own as relationships fell apart. Once to lanzarote and the other to Tunisia. In Tunisia I was at a hotel and it was a large table for about 8 so I was not really on my own. In lanzarote I mainly sun bathed, read and booked on a couple of trips once there I did not regret them more worried getting there. Go girl enjoy treat yourself to an e reader and load it with books!!!!!!!

**loocyloo** · 06-02-2013, 08:06 PM

oh hunny,

big hugs xxx

i haven't been on holiday on my own ... i tried when i was 18 ... just a last minute week in the sun ... my mother decided to come too

i'd be more than happy to go on my own. to just sit around in the sun & relax.

take some books, music and headphones and have a good break

xxx

**TAZ** · 06-02-2013, 08:11 PM

Go on the holiday & enjoy it - the other option is the housework!!!!

**sarah707** · 06-02-2013, 08:14 PM

Oh hunny I am so sorry. Some time away will be good for you

Take some books / e-reader, a few magazines - puzzler ones are good... does the hotel have wifi? You could take a little tablet and play games.

Enjoy your break we are all here for you when you get back xx

**mazza58** · 06-02-2013, 08:20 PM

Oh how sad , but think of shirley valentine if its a holiday in the sun sit read, relax pamper and have a wine or two. I always find that when on holiday people speak to each other around the pool etc, go for it surely its better than not going and sitting here with this horrible weather feeling sorry for yourself. Sending hugs

**pipandbaz** · 06-02-2013, 08:43 PM

You go and pamper yourself no ifs or buts xxxx
Chin up girl

**chriss** · 06-02-2013, 09:33 PM

What a ****bag is all I can say ((hugs))

**Maza** · 06-02-2013, 09:37 PM

Sending you hugs.

A couple of friends go on holiday alone. One because she is happily single and another one because her hubby can't get much time off work and she just enjoys the travel. I went through a phase of popping into the local pub on my own after work for a quick glass of wine and to do a bit of paperwork. I quite enjoyed the feeling of liberation that it gave me! Some restaurants/bars are easier to do this in than others, so just choose places where you feel comfortable. You could always get room service a couple of times or get bread and stuff from a supermarket and eat in your room when you don't feel up for it. If they do have wi fi you can come on here and chat to us! x

**CH1957** · 06-02-2013, 09:50 PM

Thanks for all your lovely replies. I know I should go but Im such a wimp! 55 years old and never been on holiday on my own. We have an all inclusive hotel booked so it is only eating in the same place each day. I still cant decide, Im trying to talk myself into it and convince myself that it'll do my confidence the power of good

**wendywu** · 06-02-2013, 09:54 PM

I would have no problem going on my own i can read solid for two weeks any way, take a tablet and use wifi and talk to us on here while we slave away with dirty nappies and you are dipping your toes in the water.

OR ( now this is the wicked side of me coming out now ) really screw with the other womans head and take him with you, she would be beside herself

**CH1957** · 06-02-2013, 10:04 PM

Originally Posted by wendywu

I would have no problem going on my own i can read solid for two weeks any way, take a tablet and use wifi and talk to us on here while we slave away with dirty nappies and you are dipping your toes in the water.

OR ( now this is the wicked side of me coming out now ) really screw with the other womans head and take him with you, she would be beside herself

She wants nothing more to do with him again, nor do I. Her and I have had a long chat today and we've both found out so many lies he's told us both, the way he has played one of us off against the other is just unbelievable. Lewis in Corrie is a puppy compared to him!!

**wendywu** · 06-02-2013, 10:10 PM

Originally Posted by CH1957

She wants nothing more to do with him again, nor do I. Her and I have had a long chat today and we've both found out so many lies he's told us both, the way he has played one of us off against the other is just unbelievable. Lewis in Corrie is a puppy compared to him!!

Then wind him up and take her