Originally Posted by
LauraS
I can't speak as a childminder, only as a working parent. Before I went on maternity leave, I worked full time (and then some, at times!) and commuted and was out of the house from 7am to 7pm five days a week plus some Saturdays. My children were all in full time childcare/wrap around care. Last summer, for example, they went to a holiday club at a soft play place. Once a week they went on a trip but the rest of the time they were in a hot airless windowless industrial unit from 8am to 6pm. Term time isn't much better.
I have missed nativity plays, birthdays, bring your mum to school days, fete's, sports days and exams. Someone else had the joy seeing my girls first crawl, first steps etc. I have come to dread their illness, teacher training days and snow days because they leave me in an untenable position with work. On her first day at high school, my daughter had to get the bus there alone, a forty five minute bus journey away, because I couldn't get time off. She had never been on a bus alone before and I couldn't even walk her to the bus stop. The guilt is awful.
When I get home from work, I start the dinner. We eat about an hour later, I wash up, clean up, put the washing on for the next day etc and then it's time for the kids to go to bed. Quality time, nil. At weekends, we shop and catch up on everything we didn't get done in the week.
I know my kids will have to share me and their home, I realise this - and so do they. The best option would be something like a TA job, so I'm away only short hours whilst they are in school but I would take a big drop in pay and still have to pay for almost full time childcare for the baby, which would wipe out my earnings. The only way I can drop my earnings is to also drop the cost of childcare, which is why childminding is a possibility.
I know it's not perfect, but short of winning the lottery, it never will be. Surely childminding has to be a better option for my children than going back to my job?!
Bookmarks