Originally Posted by
adele1985
I have a friend whos little boy I look after on a when and if basis (normaly 2 mornings a week)
I agreeded to care for him without pay until her tax credits came through that was in january she told me she should come through in the next couple of weeks after nearly 4 months of waiting and me asking every week about the money (and her getting anoyed about me asking about money) they money finally came though and she paid 150 off what she owed (she said they money would come in installments each week)
I agreed to look after her child even tho she still owed me money as she assured me that the rest of the money would come next week
the week later i looked after her son on the thursday expecting her to bring the money with her - she arrived with no money and explained the money would go into the bank ob the friday and she would bring it round asap
the friday she never came (it was good friday) I text her and she text back saying she would drop it in later - she never
I text her on the saturday - no reply i phoned her - no answer
thats the last time i have heard from her
I sent a message on face book asking why she had not dropped the money in - the message i got back was along the lines of she has had other things to pay for and she will give me the money when shes ready basically
I emailed her back saying i understand shes got other things to pay but so have i and I though she might of made a more of an effort to pay me first as i have been waiting since january - she didnt reply
since them ive had no contact with her
this friday i had enough so i phoned her mam and asked if she know if i was needed to look after child she said she thinks wednesday, thursday and friday but she would get my friend to phone and confirm - I also asked her if she know anything about they money ( i know i shouldent off but i really sisnt know what else to do) she said she would have a word with my friend and tell her to phone me
I still havent heard a peep from my friend and i really dont know what to do
to be honest its not really about the money im anoyed about the way she is going about things i know she been shopping and was out over bank holiday as she has put it on face book
I just dont know what to do next should i just wait until she gets in touch
should i send her a formal letter stating that im terminating her contract with me until full payment is recived - i wa thinking of giving her a date (like a weeks notice) to get the money to me before I go further
I hate confrontation and i really dont understand why she would be getting anoyed with me asking for MY money im sure she wouldnet be willing to work for 5 months without pay
Any advice - its really getting me down now
whatever you do here hon, your friendship is not going to be the same again. so I would go totally professional and business like with a letter.
Phone her (and follow up with a letter through her door - posted today).
Basically say you are disappointed that she has not paid but also that she has felt unable to talk to you about payment. Say that you also have bills to pay and cannot do so unless you are paid on time for the care that you have provided. Explain that you will not be able to care for the child until such time as payment is made in full. Then ask her to please make payment as soon as possible as late payment fees are applicable from today at £x/per day and you really don't want to have to charge them to a friend. Tell her that if payment is not made tommorrow you will be giving 4 weeks notice and that care will only resume during that notice period if she pays overdue care fees in full.
I might also be tempted to put a short, handwritten note in saying how upset you are she has treated you this way when you are friends and how she felt it ok to pay everythign else before you.
sorry this has happened hon.
Last edited by Pauline; 15-04-2012 at 10:57 AM.
Reason: removing child's name for confidentiality
if you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always got
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