Anon8319
10-11-2011, 08:04 PM
I do school drop off for my reception-aged schoolie 5x a week, and pick up once.
Well on Monday night she pulled me to the side and said 'no biggy at the moment but I just thought I'd let you know that last week X was found with school money in his pockets which was then taken off him, and today he asked if he could have it back!!' I said I'd pass it on to mum and keep an eye on him when he's in my care.
I have noticed that he doesn't seem to get invited to other children's houses (reception class is only about 6 children so it's a reception/1/2 class but they all intermingle) and tells me often that so-and-so has told him he will be going to their house on x day but it never happens. All seems quite normal but I noticed that mums were shushing their children when they were asking if he wanted to come and play, as if they wanted to avoid it. And I've noticed 'looks' and one mum is asking me lots of questions and saying things like 'I bet you're glad to get rid of him at the end of the week aren't you?' Well everyone on this forum knows of my trials with this child, but actually he is not even 5 yet so what gives with comments like that?!!
Anyway, this morning the teacher pulled me aside again. I used to teach so I know she has to relay concerns to parents and carers. She asked for my 'opinion' and 'perspective' on his behaviour and language. I wasn't quite sure what she meant to begin with and she expanded on what she'd said and explained that some parents had said to her that they are not happy with his language and behaviour and rudeness and that he'd been calling other children 'poohead' etc and had I noticed anything. I said he can be rude when he's with me but hasn't used poor language but I speculated that it's probably because he is the only schoolie and doesn't have anyone to play up to like he does at school. I also said I wasn't sure where he'd get such language as he doesn't get to mix with older children except at school. I said that he has been rude consistently but that mum is aware of this and knows that in her own experience he can be very rude and I went so far as to call him precocious (which he is) - not in a nasty way, just in trying to ascertain what it was she meant exactly. She also said he answers back a lot, which is true.
Now I know that this child can be very rude and does answer back. This week they are holding parent meetings (like parents' evening but spread over a week because it is a small school) and tonight was his mum's night and the teacher was going to raise this with her; she said that she was pleased I'd noticed the rudeness too. Now I think mum is a bit upset because she believes we have conspired behind her/his back.
How would you handle this?
Well on Monday night she pulled me to the side and said 'no biggy at the moment but I just thought I'd let you know that last week X was found with school money in his pockets which was then taken off him, and today he asked if he could have it back!!' I said I'd pass it on to mum and keep an eye on him when he's in my care.
I have noticed that he doesn't seem to get invited to other children's houses (reception class is only about 6 children so it's a reception/1/2 class but they all intermingle) and tells me often that so-and-so has told him he will be going to their house on x day but it never happens. All seems quite normal but I noticed that mums were shushing their children when they were asking if he wanted to come and play, as if they wanted to avoid it. And I've noticed 'looks' and one mum is asking me lots of questions and saying things like 'I bet you're glad to get rid of him at the end of the week aren't you?' Well everyone on this forum knows of my trials with this child, but actually he is not even 5 yet so what gives with comments like that?!!
Anyway, this morning the teacher pulled me aside again. I used to teach so I know she has to relay concerns to parents and carers. She asked for my 'opinion' and 'perspective' on his behaviour and language. I wasn't quite sure what she meant to begin with and she expanded on what she'd said and explained that some parents had said to her that they are not happy with his language and behaviour and rudeness and that he'd been calling other children 'poohead' etc and had I noticed anything. I said he can be rude when he's with me but hasn't used poor language but I speculated that it's probably because he is the only schoolie and doesn't have anyone to play up to like he does at school. I also said I wasn't sure where he'd get such language as he doesn't get to mix with older children except at school. I said that he has been rude consistently but that mum is aware of this and knows that in her own experience he can be very rude and I went so far as to call him precocious (which he is) - not in a nasty way, just in trying to ascertain what it was she meant exactly. She also said he answers back a lot, which is true.
Now I know that this child can be very rude and does answer back. This week they are holding parent meetings (like parents' evening but spread over a week because it is a small school) and tonight was his mum's night and the teacher was going to raise this with her; she said that she was pleased I'd noticed the rudeness too. Now I think mum is a bit upset because she believes we have conspired behind her/his back.
How would you handle this?