mum2two
14-05-2008, 08:10 PM
I have a mindee, who's mum is a friend so H knows me. She's 3 in Sept & I've had her since she was about 13 months old.
Sometimes she can be quite clingy to mum, (her eldest was the same), and will grizzle when mum leaves, but about 1 minute later she's fine with distraction. Tickle, juice, tv, toy (work my way through them all)
Anyway, about 2 weeks ago they moved. I think H was quite confused by it all, and was a nightmare coming to mine. Screaming, throwing her head back, kicking & hitting out etc. I realised it must have been to do with impending house move, and talked to H about her her house, & mummy & daddy & sibling going with her, and she got better. Settled, and stopped the fussing.
Well, they've finally moved, but as previous house was rented, when they'd moved into new house, they still were in & out of the old house. And I think this has really confused H. She'd regressed, and started screaming when mum leaves!
Mum has said she's not sleeping too well, asking to 'go home'. I really feel for her. I've tried distracting her, leaving her to cry, (but then she just hits & kicks everyone), and don't know what I can do to help.
Mum says 'mummy's going to work - go to Kelly', and she just clings to mum saying 'NOOO - not like Kelly.' 'I want mummy'. etc...
I think this whole house move has made her really insecure. Once she's calmed down, she's fine. Doesn't ask for mum at all!!!
Any ideas how we can help calm the morning situation, as I'm sure mum doesn't like it any more than I do...
Sorry for the long ramble, but I so want to sort this out and help H settle again...
Thanks
Kelly
Sometimes she can be quite clingy to mum, (her eldest was the same), and will grizzle when mum leaves, but about 1 minute later she's fine with distraction. Tickle, juice, tv, toy (work my way through them all)
Anyway, about 2 weeks ago they moved. I think H was quite confused by it all, and was a nightmare coming to mine. Screaming, throwing her head back, kicking & hitting out etc. I realised it must have been to do with impending house move, and talked to H about her her house, & mummy & daddy & sibling going with her, and she got better. Settled, and stopped the fussing.
Well, they've finally moved, but as previous house was rented, when they'd moved into new house, they still were in & out of the old house. And I think this has really confused H. She'd regressed, and started screaming when mum leaves!
Mum has said she's not sleeping too well, asking to 'go home'. I really feel for her. I've tried distracting her, leaving her to cry, (but then she just hits & kicks everyone), and don't know what I can do to help.
Mum says 'mummy's going to work - go to Kelly', and she just clings to mum saying 'NOOO - not like Kelly.' 'I want mummy'. etc...
I think this whole house move has made her really insecure. Once she's calmed down, she's fine. Doesn't ask for mum at all!!!
Any ideas how we can help calm the morning situation, as I'm sure mum doesn't like it any more than I do...
Sorry for the long ramble, but I so want to sort this out and help H settle again...
Thanks
Kelly