View Full Version : do any of you get horrid looks of other c/m
Ben10mad
05-10-2011, 09:22 PM
Hiya
just a quick question really, When you see other childminders out and about and at school runs, do any of you get horrible looks because i do. Im poilte and i smile but they seem to look at me in descust (im not over exaggerating either) :)
karen m
05-10-2011, 09:31 PM
I have recently started back picking up from a school that i collected from in pass,and yes minders who were not there at that time seem to look at me as if i have horns,like you have smiled,said hi,but the cm and parents she knows just look at me,the younger child i pick up i have looked after on and off for 3 years and her elder brother has come to me in holiday time so not as if am a new minder out to take "their children"
Ali56
05-10-2011, 10:15 PM
Its a shame that that happens, we all do the same job and should be civilised enough to socialise and share experiences and ideas, let the children mix with others who are minded (and maybe even get a hot cup of tea!!)
I live in a tiny village and in all the surrounding villages there is only one other minder, I can see her house from mine!! So, In a way I feel lucky as I never experience that behaviour, but unlucky as there are only 2 of us so not enough to start a group or anything.
marnieb
06-10-2011, 06:19 AM
Yes, I hate my schhol runs today and tomorrow as there are 2/3 other cm's who stand together and opnely stare at me & the amount of kids I have (all within my numbers & have a variation for thursdays).
I tried to talk to the older one when i saw her in the shops a few weeks ago but she ignored me and walked away.
helengreen13
06-10-2011, 06:34 AM
You could all be talking about our village. Have a problem with one particular cm. We clash personalities and we didnt like each other before I became a cm and think she resented me doing the job as she was "the only CM in the village" but have said to her lets keep it professional, but she still talks about me all the time and as she has been a cm for alot longer than me all the other cm's cluck round her at school pick up times and im left on my own to collect the children.
I try to ignore it and just concentrate on the children as I walk past :angry:
I love my job and wont be put off or upset my anyone. Everyone is fighting for work at the moment and we are all struggling so I am just taking this time to re-group, update all my paperwork and try to be totally organised when the children start to knock on my door.
Have tried to go to the local cm group but just felt totally excluded and no-one talked to me, just the odd yes, no etc to my questions.
Keep you head held high
Helen
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Toothfairy
06-10-2011, 06:51 AM
I must say that where I live, I am very lucky.
We have a high number of CM's in my town and we all seem to get on. At school we stand and chat (& moan) together, we help each other out & meet for playdates.
At the Childminding Group we all get on well, and pass on names of people needing care if we cant do it ourselves.
I have been minding for over 5 years now and I have always found the other CM's very friendly and helpful :D
Ripeberry
06-10-2011, 07:16 AM
Not really had it myself, but I went to a softplay once and lots of women were there, seemingly ignoring their kids, lots of crying, trying to cling onto legs and then I realised they were all CMs!
None of them I recognised and they did not know me. But the way they were talking about their mindees in an open area was a bit :eek:
Just lucky I was not a parent, rest of softplay very quiet.
I have another supposed CM at my school, but she is not registered, but I manage to speak to her OK. She still gets lots of work, but then she does not have to do the paperwork.
The parents I don't understand :( Anyway that's another story.
amanda1309
06-10-2011, 07:20 AM
I must say that where I live, I am very lucky.
We have a high number of CM's in my town and we all seem to get on. At school we stand and chat (& moan) together, we help each other out & meet for playdates.
At the Childminding Group we all get on well, and pass on names of people needing care if we cant do it ourselves.
I have been minding for over 5 years now and I have always found the other CM's very friendly and helpful :D
You have described where I live to a T. We all go out together and are friends socially even some of our husbands have become friends.
There are a small few who stand and glare but generally we all seem to get on.
mandy moo
06-10-2011, 09:50 AM
Blimey, Think I must be lucky then, off the top of my head there are 8 including me that I can think of in our small/medium sized village and I think we all get along just fine.
But to be honest it wouldnt bother me if we didnt, cant be putting up with that sort of rubbish
Reminds me how lucky we are in our area. Theres about 15 of us that work extreamly closly we share resources have minding parties for all the mindees organise our own social groups for mindees as well as those organised for us by childrens center and we even have a childminders xmas meal! We didnt know each other pre minding.
xgemx
06-10-2011, 12:08 PM
That sounds awful im really lucky ive have just become registered but i did it with the enbcouragement with lots of local cms i met at baby groups with my own children, they have all been a phonecall away if im stuck with something and really have been a great help and now all are willing to pass work onto me if they cant do it
Carpet Monkeys
06-10-2011, 12:14 PM
Luckily we all chat and pass each other details on if get enquiries, don't get any hassle really from other CM's
caz3007
06-10-2011, 05:14 PM
There are only two other minders at my school, but loads in my town. I have received work from both the other minders when they havent been able to accomodate, and have passed onto them children I cant manage. I go to one toddler group and there are several minders there and we all chat. There must be bitching going on, but hey they arent bitching to me :clapping:
karen m
06-10-2011, 06:00 PM
in my previous post i stated about cm on school run,i lived in another part of the town for years and the cm group there was brilliant and still see them on occassions, and speak on here,but new face at the school now,so have to learn to get on with it
Sue_M222
06-10-2011, 08:19 PM
Oo, can't believe that CMs actually behave like that and look after children :O.
I'm just waiting for my certificate but have had encouragement from other CMs, hoping I meet many more.
buzzy bee
07-10-2011, 07:39 AM
It seems to me that being a childminder is like being a parent - we all (if we're honest, deep down) feel that our way is best, and look at others and think they're doing it all wrong :laughing:
It's just that some of us keep our opinions to ourselves and think "each to his own" and others sadly feel the need to make their opinions obvious!!
I'd just ignore them and get on with it - I'm sure you're doing a great job :thumbsup: