dollydally
06-04-2011, 07:33 PM
Hi all
I've posted before about my little mindee (almost 3) who is a bit of a mare! On the second day I looked after her she slapped a random baby in the face and various other things..... Anyhow, it doesn't seem to be getting any better.. I really enjoy looking after her baby sister who I have pretty much alone on one day a week and then the following day I have them both. And I dread it. She lashes out a lot, but is quick to apologise. She was playing with my 4 year old this morning and pulled his hair. I asked her not to do it as she made N cry and he was very sad etc etc. so she apologises. The 3 minutes later does it again. Says sorry immediately but I remove her as it's the second time and sit her in time out for a couple of minutes. It really doesn't bother her. 'I'll be good' she says, so after her 2 minutes is up, skips off and then does something else. Snatching/pushing (she's a great one for doing shoulder barging when she's running along next to my son), pinching, you name it, she does it. Screeches if she can't have what she wants. Seems to take great delight in testing boundaries all the time . I want to like her but am really struggling and this makes me feel terrible. She is a cuddly child (but even this is odd - she squeezes like she wants to hurt you) but I'm finding it hard to get onto this level with her. I've tried lots of praising etc etc, involving her in stuff etc. her sister is totally different. I find it very easy to be cuddly with her I suppose because she's a baby? I'm not really sure what advice I'm after to be honest, I've looked after them for 6 weeks now and I know they enjoy coming here but I'm starting to feel I should give them notice for my sanity. I've been told 'be consistent' which I am but I don't know whether I'm fighting a losing battle and I feel a little bit of a failure. My mum came over today ( moral support!) and little one was actually reasonable good. Until we went out and then she kicked a dog.:panic: My mum's face was a picture of horror. Any advice from anyone? Thank you
I've posted before about my little mindee (almost 3) who is a bit of a mare! On the second day I looked after her she slapped a random baby in the face and various other things..... Anyhow, it doesn't seem to be getting any better.. I really enjoy looking after her baby sister who I have pretty much alone on one day a week and then the following day I have them both. And I dread it. She lashes out a lot, but is quick to apologise. She was playing with my 4 year old this morning and pulled his hair. I asked her not to do it as she made N cry and he was very sad etc etc. so she apologises. The 3 minutes later does it again. Says sorry immediately but I remove her as it's the second time and sit her in time out for a couple of minutes. It really doesn't bother her. 'I'll be good' she says, so after her 2 minutes is up, skips off and then does something else. Snatching/pushing (she's a great one for doing shoulder barging when she's running along next to my son), pinching, you name it, she does it. Screeches if she can't have what she wants. Seems to take great delight in testing boundaries all the time . I want to like her but am really struggling and this makes me feel terrible. She is a cuddly child (but even this is odd - she squeezes like she wants to hurt you) but I'm finding it hard to get onto this level with her. I've tried lots of praising etc etc, involving her in stuff etc. her sister is totally different. I find it very easy to be cuddly with her I suppose because she's a baby? I'm not really sure what advice I'm after to be honest, I've looked after them for 6 weeks now and I know they enjoy coming here but I'm starting to feel I should give them notice for my sanity. I've been told 'be consistent' which I am but I don't know whether I'm fighting a losing battle and I feel a little bit of a failure. My mum came over today ( moral support!) and little one was actually reasonable good. Until we went out and then she kicked a dog.:panic: My mum's face was a picture of horror. Any advice from anyone? Thank you