Helcatt
24-03-2011, 11:47 PM
Or persevere?
I have mindee G for 2 days a week and he is in a nursery for the other three. From what mum says, he seems to have settled better with me than nursery.
Initially, he screamed all the time that he was not on my knee. And quite often while I was holding him too
2 months in, its getting better at home. I can go to the loo on my own without him freaking out. I even was able to go in to the kitchen and prepare food this evening without a meltdown
But at groups he is still a sobbing wreck. He literally will scream the whole time, I can be sat next to him, holding his hand, I can be carrying him around - the only time it stops is when we are singing, which he loves, and he forgets where we are.
Until that is, the other two with me want lifting up in the air when we "ZOOM" and he is sat next to me, touching my leg but uncontrollable sobbing. He sometimes calms a little if he's sat on my lap while I'm sat on the floor. I keep trying to get him to sit next to me rather than on me but thats too far away, apparently Its not anger, its like he is petrified! Or maybe it is and he is being quite manipulative. He is the same with mum at a groups
I try getting him to do things and he won't he just wants to sit on my knee, even in front of an activity like this, he wont join in, just cries
I don't want to stop going to groups with him, its great for the older ones and I do firmly believe there are benefits for him - or there will be. Plus also, the others are used to the routine and I don't want them missing out
But its not fair on him or me if he is screaming and it also means I can not give the other the attention they deserve.
In all other aspects, the longer he is with me, the better he is doing. Am really getting to know his cheeky little personality now that he is more relaxed
What would you do?
HX
We didn't do a group yesterday, had a good play in the park, then did a "nature trail "on our way home for lunch then had indoor and outdoor activities at home and he was fine the whole time.
I have mindee G for 2 days a week and he is in a nursery for the other three. From what mum says, he seems to have settled better with me than nursery.
Initially, he screamed all the time that he was not on my knee. And quite often while I was holding him too
2 months in, its getting better at home. I can go to the loo on my own without him freaking out. I even was able to go in to the kitchen and prepare food this evening without a meltdown
But at groups he is still a sobbing wreck. He literally will scream the whole time, I can be sat next to him, holding his hand, I can be carrying him around - the only time it stops is when we are singing, which he loves, and he forgets where we are.
Until that is, the other two with me want lifting up in the air when we "ZOOM" and he is sat next to me, touching my leg but uncontrollable sobbing. He sometimes calms a little if he's sat on my lap while I'm sat on the floor. I keep trying to get him to sit next to me rather than on me but thats too far away, apparently Its not anger, its like he is petrified! Or maybe it is and he is being quite manipulative. He is the same with mum at a groups
I try getting him to do things and he won't he just wants to sit on my knee, even in front of an activity like this, he wont join in, just cries
I don't want to stop going to groups with him, its great for the older ones and I do firmly believe there are benefits for him - or there will be. Plus also, the others are used to the routine and I don't want them missing out
But its not fair on him or me if he is screaming and it also means I can not give the other the attention they deserve.
In all other aspects, the longer he is with me, the better he is doing. Am really getting to know his cheeky little personality now that he is more relaxed
What would you do?
HX
We didn't do a group yesterday, had a good play in the park, then did a "nature trail "on our way home for lunch then had indoor and outdoor activities at home and he was fine the whole time.