mufftie
04-02-2011, 07:09 AM
i finally gave a long awaited notice to my oldest serving mindee last night :(
its a nearly 4 yrold girl who ive had since birth pretty much and had her cousin before her , she was lovely until mum became pregnant and then gave birth to her sister . but for the last 18 months she has screamed the place down and cried over the most silly things , i only have to mention the word food , or going out and she screams , all i get out of her is i want my mum , or i dont want my mum to go to work , she pee's herself in temper and wont join in activities , so a nightmare tbh .
ive been able to manage this behaviour until recently by issuing lots of time out and generally not listening to her screaming she only comes( 2 days a week )
only now her sister whos 16 months has picked up on her screaming and has decided to join in , and my god she's got the loadest cry ive ever heard !
well yesterday was awful 4 hours of 2 of them screaming finally brought me to breaking point and i just let it all out to mum when she arrived and id backed it up with a letter saying that i was giving official 4 weeks notice as i couldnt continue to give a proffesional level of care to the other children whilst being disrubted by their screaming ,i was shaking whilst telling her i was that stressed .
anyway she was gobsmacked , i cant believe she was as id said several times that the older girl was crying a lot , ok id played it down as not to upset mum . and she has asked if over the 4 weeks notice she can resolve the situation if she can stay , i agreed and said i was willing to accept change but if it dosnt happen then i stick to my notice
i was rather hoping that the act of giving her notice would be a huge burden of my back but i felt worse for upsetting her !
do you think ive done the right thing as i feel ive failed her and should of not let it get on top of me like that
anyway sorry to have a moan so early in the morning but needed to say something .
its a nearly 4 yrold girl who ive had since birth pretty much and had her cousin before her , she was lovely until mum became pregnant and then gave birth to her sister . but for the last 18 months she has screamed the place down and cried over the most silly things , i only have to mention the word food , or going out and she screams , all i get out of her is i want my mum , or i dont want my mum to go to work , she pee's herself in temper and wont join in activities , so a nightmare tbh .
ive been able to manage this behaviour until recently by issuing lots of time out and generally not listening to her screaming she only comes( 2 days a week )
only now her sister whos 16 months has picked up on her screaming and has decided to join in , and my god she's got the loadest cry ive ever heard !
well yesterday was awful 4 hours of 2 of them screaming finally brought me to breaking point and i just let it all out to mum when she arrived and id backed it up with a letter saying that i was giving official 4 weeks notice as i couldnt continue to give a proffesional level of care to the other children whilst being disrubted by their screaming ,i was shaking whilst telling her i was that stressed .
anyway she was gobsmacked , i cant believe she was as id said several times that the older girl was crying a lot , ok id played it down as not to upset mum . and she has asked if over the 4 weeks notice she can resolve the situation if she can stay , i agreed and said i was willing to accept change but if it dosnt happen then i stick to my notice
i was rather hoping that the act of giving her notice would be a huge burden of my back but i felt worse for upsetting her !
do you think ive done the right thing as i feel ive failed her and should of not let it get on top of me like that
anyway sorry to have a moan so early in the morning but needed to say something .