sara_jayne
12-01-2011, 08:21 PM
Hello all
I need some advice - I've not been minding long so I'm a bit unsure about this one!
I have a new mindee, 2 years old, with me on a short term contract so I don't know her very well and she's due to leave end of Jan so there's not much time to get to know her. There have been a couple of incidents where I've caught her hitting a doll saying "no, no" repeatedly and I overheard her saying to a bear that if it didn't sit still she would "bang" it's arms. I spoke to my partner about these incidents, and we both thought it was a bit odd, but we thought that she could have picked this sort of thing up from other children at her previous nursery or something so I didn't think much more about it.
Then, today, she played up when walking to my car (I drop her off at the end of the day) and started walking back towards my house. I said to her about going home to see Mummy and Daddy and she came back straight away so I put her in the car. As we were setting off she said "Mummy's naughty, she goes in the naughty corner". I asked her why and she said "she hit me". I asked when mummy goes in the naughty corner and she said "when she bangs me on the window". We were nearly at her house by this point, and I know you're not supposed to ask too many questions, so I just left it and changed the subject.
She seemed happy enough to see her Mum when we got to her house, although I have noticed that it's always her Daddy that she asks for if she's upset or anything but that alone doesn't necessarily mean anything does it. But then if you add everything up... I don't know... I guess I'm just a little unsure about what to do now.
I had to change her clothes yesterday as she had a nappy spillage and I didn't notice any bruising or anything untoward - and I am conscious that I don't know her well enough to know if she's just using language she's heard without understanding the implications of what she's saying - but I'm kind of thinking maybe I should report it anyway and let Social Services make that sort of decision since I'm not really qualified...
At the very least, I've made a record of the conversation, and I feel I should tell Ofsted just in case she is just repeating language she's heard before and says something like that about me to her Mum, if that makes sense.
What do you think??
:confused:
I need some advice - I've not been minding long so I'm a bit unsure about this one!
I have a new mindee, 2 years old, with me on a short term contract so I don't know her very well and she's due to leave end of Jan so there's not much time to get to know her. There have been a couple of incidents where I've caught her hitting a doll saying "no, no" repeatedly and I overheard her saying to a bear that if it didn't sit still she would "bang" it's arms. I spoke to my partner about these incidents, and we both thought it was a bit odd, but we thought that she could have picked this sort of thing up from other children at her previous nursery or something so I didn't think much more about it.
Then, today, she played up when walking to my car (I drop her off at the end of the day) and started walking back towards my house. I said to her about going home to see Mummy and Daddy and she came back straight away so I put her in the car. As we were setting off she said "Mummy's naughty, she goes in the naughty corner". I asked her why and she said "she hit me". I asked when mummy goes in the naughty corner and she said "when she bangs me on the window". We were nearly at her house by this point, and I know you're not supposed to ask too many questions, so I just left it and changed the subject.
She seemed happy enough to see her Mum when we got to her house, although I have noticed that it's always her Daddy that she asks for if she's upset or anything but that alone doesn't necessarily mean anything does it. But then if you add everything up... I don't know... I guess I'm just a little unsure about what to do now.
I had to change her clothes yesterday as she had a nappy spillage and I didn't notice any bruising or anything untoward - and I am conscious that I don't know her well enough to know if she's just using language she's heard without understanding the implications of what she's saying - but I'm kind of thinking maybe I should report it anyway and let Social Services make that sort of decision since I'm not really qualified...
At the very least, I've made a record of the conversation, and I feel I should tell Ofsted just in case she is just repeating language she's heard before and says something like that about me to her Mum, if that makes sense.
What do you think??
:confused: