MissTinkerbell
27-09-2010, 12:16 PM
I really should know the answer to this being a mum of 3 but its never really something thats occurred with my own children, surprisingly.
Mindee one - La has been with me for 14 months and is now 26 months. Previous to September I had my own 2 children at home (aged 4) and he has never had a problem sharing the toys. A little issue with putting something down and then it being gone when he wanted it again but we got over that with a bit of explaining and time.
Now in September mindee two - Le started and so did the problems. Le is 12 months. The problem is that whenever Le goes anywhere near the toys (even if La isn't playing with them) La wil squeal and shout at hime and get very annoyed. Le can pick up a toy and La will take it off him.
I've tried all the talk about sharing and with things like the cars, trucks, trains and building bricks there's more than enough to go round but La ALWAYS wants the one that Le has. This isn't just at my house either - it also happens when we are at other minders houses and at the groups we go to. Sometimes it is also aimed at the children and not just Le.
Now I realise that a lot of this is jealousy but how do I restore harmonious play? I seem to spend all my time asking La to share and distracting him with other toys.
I have spoken to mum and dad and they have followed this up at home with him reminding him that its not nice to take things from Le and he has to share.
Mindee one - La has been with me for 14 months and is now 26 months. Previous to September I had my own 2 children at home (aged 4) and he has never had a problem sharing the toys. A little issue with putting something down and then it being gone when he wanted it again but we got over that with a bit of explaining and time.
Now in September mindee two - Le started and so did the problems. Le is 12 months. The problem is that whenever Le goes anywhere near the toys (even if La isn't playing with them) La wil squeal and shout at hime and get very annoyed. Le can pick up a toy and La will take it off him.
I've tried all the talk about sharing and with things like the cars, trucks, trains and building bricks there's more than enough to go round but La ALWAYS wants the one that Le has. This isn't just at my house either - it also happens when we are at other minders houses and at the groups we go to. Sometimes it is also aimed at the children and not just Le.
Now I realise that a lot of this is jealousy but how do I restore harmonious play? I seem to spend all my time asking La to share and distracting him with other toys.
I have spoken to mum and dad and they have followed this up at home with him reminding him that its not nice to take things from Le and he has to share.