How do you get through the day when you've had awful news

[vickieford85]

hi all again,
Sorry but ive just had a call from the vets to say that my parent in law's dog has final stage lythmfoama(sp) cancer and only has a few weeks max to live. Its dreadful news and on top of all that my parent in laws are in canada and aren't back for another week and my husband's nan who is currently has the dog won't let us tell them about it I could cry on so many levels how will i cope till 6pm???

[fluffysocks]

i dont know how you will do it hun but somewhere in you is the strength. maybe an impromptu trip to the park, or a walk to look for bugs or collect leaves for a picture or something if weather allows? or a carefully chosen dvd for little ones allowing you a little quiet time?

sending you hugs x

[brightstar]

Fluffysocks is right, keep busy and focus on other things. You are strong and can do it. Sending you hugs )))))))))))))).

[SammyM]

We lost our dog to cancer last year, just a horrible horrible time :( :(

If you have any little ones that are struggling to come to terms with it I can thoroughly recommend a book called The Forever Dog

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Forever-Dog-Bill-Cochran/dp/0060539399/ref=sr_1_8?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1281626323&sr=8-8 (http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/0060539399?ie=UTF8&tag=childminding-21&linkCode=as2&camp=1634&creative=19450&creativeASIN=0060539399">The Forever Dog</a><img src="http://www.assoc-amazon.co.uk/e/ir?t=childminding-21&l=as2&o=2&a=0060539399" width="1" height="1" border="0" alt="" style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;)

Its such a lovely book, reduces me to tears everytime we read it, I've put a lovely photo in the front of the book of out little Oscar so my two will never forget him.

Sending hugs your way (((:( )))

[Mummits]

Sorry to hear your sad news. Maybe taking the little ones out for a treat or doing something a bit special like making a cake or a favorite meal might cheer you up, or do you know others locally you might be able to meet up with to take your mind off it for a bit?

For what it's worth, I think I agree with your nan about not telling the in-laws, because there is absolutely nothing they can do, so why not leave them to enjoy the rest of their holiday. My mum-in-law was looking after my cat a few years ago and he fell ill and she took him to the vet who said he was suffering from incurable cancer and should be put to sleep without delay. She was brave enough to agree, but then phoned me up to tell me. Of course I felt terrible, both about my poor cat and about leaving Mum in Law with such a terrible decision. If I had the choice, I would rather not have known until I came back, as there was nothing I could usefully do.

[newandlearning]

hi... my heart goes out to you... my dog had a small tumour on his throat when he was around 5 years old.. I was living in abroad at the time and felt helpless.. and very very sad.. luckily my dad communicated well with me and he took him for surgery and on that occasion they got rid of the cancer...
4 years went by and then he got a tumour on his heart.. they did several upsetting procedures and they did manage to give him another year and a half of life.
If I was away and he had got ill with only a few weeks to live I would have come straight back home to be with him.. I would have felt really robbed on my final moments with him..

with my dog one day he just kept sitting down and couldn't get up anymore.. It makes tears well in my eyes just thinking about it... I knew it was his time to go.. so we took him to the vets and I stay with him and then my beautiful dog was gone... he was one of the most amazing animals I've ever met.. I still love him dearly... I think your parent in laws should be given the chance to come home and be with their dog or at least be given that chance...I'm soo sorry if this upsets you even more.. my heart goes out to you all.. losing a pet is awful..:(

[miffy]

That's very sad news, I'm so sorry.

Hope you managed to keep busy and get through the day

Sending hugs

Miffy xx

[vickieford85]

Well the dog passed in the night.
Thankfully I was never working today.
Thanks for the advice

[emmadines]

im sorry about the dog, i have to admit i think its best to hold off telling them till they come home, theres was nothing anyone coud do about it and im sure it would be very hard and expensive for them to get home again.

i was looking after a friends cat when they were on holiday - one day i found one had died, i had to phone them to get her mums phone number as i needed to remove the cat as they werent back fo another 4 days...

it put a downer on the rest of thei family holiday.

hope ur ok

[newandlearning]

hi .. hope you have an okay day.. have been thinking about ya as its
awful when a beloved pet goes..xx