marnieb
07-07-2010, 04:08 PM
Hello everyone,
I have just found this website, and I think I'll be using it a lot!! :thumbsup:
I'm sorry if this is a long post, but I really need some help and advice.
I'll try to keep it as unbiased as possible, and ALL reactions and advice very gratefully received!!
I'm Marnie, I'm 34 and have ds 6 and a half, and dd 16 months. I was an NNEB nanny for 12 years before doing my training while pg with dd, and have been minding for almost a year.
I have T, 23 months, 4 days a week. Her parents are an older M & D, I think late 30's early 40's. They are both very nervous, quiet shy people. T is their world, and they do everything they can for her. I knew this was what they were like from the beginning, and M used to text me almost every day, and would want to chat on the phone at least once a week, and we have a day book for notes and info. At first I did all I could to reassure and help them. I thought it would tail off, but a year on in the last 2 weeks she's wanted to talk at least 3 times at inconvient (ie family time!!) evenings and weekends. And not about anything important, to ask how I was going to keep T cool in this heat!!! :huh:
A few months ago they were going through a bad time with T not going to sleep at night, taking about an hour to go to sleep. So I told them I'd get T to walk as much as possible to wear her out. School runs only twice a day and takes just over half an hour, so maybe 20 min of that is actual walking, and maybe to groups 2/3 times a week, no more than 15 min walk each way. T is a very good walker has been walking before 1, so i thought they were happy with this as she's started sleeping better because of it. She has fallen over 3 times while walking in the last month, the last time was a bad one har face was red for a few days.
I mentioned to M that as T has calmed down and it's going really well with her that I'm taking on another Mindee in October. I am regd to have another in the Early Years - I'm doing nothing wrong but trying to increase my income a bit. I'll have E 3 days a week but he'll be gone by 2.30pm. Can I mention that I have turned down work in the past year so I could focus on T and concentrate on her while she was still a baby.
Last week we had our annual review - and it did not go well!!!!!!!!
The first thing she asked was how I'm going to cope with 3 small children, if I can actually cope, how I'll give T any attention. I have been doing this job for years - if I didn't think I could cope then I wouldn't do it! She them asked what T will do when the weather's bad - I said that won't be an issue till Oct, but as she already walks most of the day she'll continue to, and in bad weather wear her waterproofs. She then went on to say she can't afford to take any more time off if T gets ill because she's made to walk in heavy rain/snow??!
She then said that not all CM's have school runs, in a tone that implied mine was unusual!! - I pointed out that only doing a school run twice a day is in fact unusual, and most Cm's have am or pm Nursery run as well.
I do understand her concerns, but as T already does the walk, and they knew about it, I must have assumed incorrectly they would be happy for it to continue in the winter, otherwise she'll be back to not sleeping???
She then asked if i was getting a triple buggy - I said no, nowhere to store it. She then offered to get me one. She then asked if I'd signed anything with E's M & D yet - told her no, doing it when I get back from holiday 1st week in August.
She then offered to pay me more if I agree to not take on more Mindees for another year....!!!!
On another note - she thinks T is too young to be walking, but has started her at pre-school on a Friday morning (my day off). I asked her why, and she said it was so she can have some time to herself. I told her if that's all she wants she can send T to me on a friday am instead.
Today she left a note asking to have a meeting next Friday.
I really don't know what to think about it, and what she'll want to discuss. Just the walking or buggy, or part of me thinks she's going to say she'll go elsewhere if I take on E.
I'm really sorry this has been so long!!!!! Just needed to get it all down!!!!
marnie
x
I have just found this website, and I think I'll be using it a lot!! :thumbsup:
I'm sorry if this is a long post, but I really need some help and advice.
I'll try to keep it as unbiased as possible, and ALL reactions and advice very gratefully received!!
I'm Marnie, I'm 34 and have ds 6 and a half, and dd 16 months. I was an NNEB nanny for 12 years before doing my training while pg with dd, and have been minding for almost a year.
I have T, 23 months, 4 days a week. Her parents are an older M & D, I think late 30's early 40's. They are both very nervous, quiet shy people. T is their world, and they do everything they can for her. I knew this was what they were like from the beginning, and M used to text me almost every day, and would want to chat on the phone at least once a week, and we have a day book for notes and info. At first I did all I could to reassure and help them. I thought it would tail off, but a year on in the last 2 weeks she's wanted to talk at least 3 times at inconvient (ie family time!!) evenings and weekends. And not about anything important, to ask how I was going to keep T cool in this heat!!! :huh:
A few months ago they were going through a bad time with T not going to sleep at night, taking about an hour to go to sleep. So I told them I'd get T to walk as much as possible to wear her out. School runs only twice a day and takes just over half an hour, so maybe 20 min of that is actual walking, and maybe to groups 2/3 times a week, no more than 15 min walk each way. T is a very good walker has been walking before 1, so i thought they were happy with this as she's started sleeping better because of it. She has fallen over 3 times while walking in the last month, the last time was a bad one har face was red for a few days.
I mentioned to M that as T has calmed down and it's going really well with her that I'm taking on another Mindee in October. I am regd to have another in the Early Years - I'm doing nothing wrong but trying to increase my income a bit. I'll have E 3 days a week but he'll be gone by 2.30pm. Can I mention that I have turned down work in the past year so I could focus on T and concentrate on her while she was still a baby.
Last week we had our annual review - and it did not go well!!!!!!!!
The first thing she asked was how I'm going to cope with 3 small children, if I can actually cope, how I'll give T any attention. I have been doing this job for years - if I didn't think I could cope then I wouldn't do it! She them asked what T will do when the weather's bad - I said that won't be an issue till Oct, but as she already walks most of the day she'll continue to, and in bad weather wear her waterproofs. She then went on to say she can't afford to take any more time off if T gets ill because she's made to walk in heavy rain/snow??!
She then said that not all CM's have school runs, in a tone that implied mine was unusual!! - I pointed out that only doing a school run twice a day is in fact unusual, and most Cm's have am or pm Nursery run as well.
I do understand her concerns, but as T already does the walk, and they knew about it, I must have assumed incorrectly they would be happy for it to continue in the winter, otherwise she'll be back to not sleeping???
She then asked if i was getting a triple buggy - I said no, nowhere to store it. She then offered to get me one. She then asked if I'd signed anything with E's M & D yet - told her no, doing it when I get back from holiday 1st week in August.
She then offered to pay me more if I agree to not take on more Mindees for another year....!!!!
On another note - she thinks T is too young to be walking, but has started her at pre-school on a Friday morning (my day off). I asked her why, and she said it was so she can have some time to herself. I told her if that's all she wants she can send T to me on a friday am instead.
Today she left a note asking to have a meeting next Friday.
I really don't know what to think about it, and what she'll want to discuss. Just the walking or buggy, or part of me thinks she's going to say she'll go elsewhere if I take on E.
I'm really sorry this has been so long!!!!! Just needed to get it all down!!!!
marnie
x