MissTinkerbell
27-05-2010, 04:39 PM
Now I know that we should take on board the parent's wishes but what happens when you don't think that it is in the best interests of the child?
Dad came to pick up L tonight and said that mum was thinking about asking me to change L's big nap from the morning to the afternoon instead. At the moment are day is as follows:
School drop off and then home with just L
L goes for nap from 9.30 until about 11.30-11.45
Nursery pick up - my own twins
Afternoon activities - toddler group; childminder drop-in; playdates and trips to park
School pick up
L nap from 3.40 - 4.15
5.15 L is picked up.
L tends to get up between 5.30 and 6.30 so is usually more than ready to go down for a nap at 9.30am. This morning our drop-in had to be moved because we couldn't use the room this afternoon so he had to go without his morning nap and whilst he was OK and managed he was falling asleep during his dinner and was grumpy when I woke him at 2.45 to do the school run.
Personally I don't think that moving his nap to the afternoon would benefit him and I think I would have a grumpy tired child who would not be interested in doing anything (at home this morning all he wanted to do was lay on the cushion and watch TV - it was only when he got with the other children that he perked up).
It also means that my children will have to miss out on the groups and trips to the park and elsewhere because he is not a child that will sleep in the pushchair (have tried this on the odd morning that I've needed to go out) and will only sleep in the travel cot.
What would you do? Would you go along with the parents wishes at the expense of my own children and having a grumpy child who wants to do nothing much or suggest that you keep nap times the same and cut out the 3.30pm nap if they think he is having too much sleep?
Dad came to pick up L tonight and said that mum was thinking about asking me to change L's big nap from the morning to the afternoon instead. At the moment are day is as follows:
School drop off and then home with just L
L goes for nap from 9.30 until about 11.30-11.45
Nursery pick up - my own twins
Afternoon activities - toddler group; childminder drop-in; playdates and trips to park
School pick up
L nap from 3.40 - 4.15
5.15 L is picked up.
L tends to get up between 5.30 and 6.30 so is usually more than ready to go down for a nap at 9.30am. This morning our drop-in had to be moved because we couldn't use the room this afternoon so he had to go without his morning nap and whilst he was OK and managed he was falling asleep during his dinner and was grumpy when I woke him at 2.45 to do the school run.
Personally I don't think that moving his nap to the afternoon would benefit him and I think I would have a grumpy tired child who would not be interested in doing anything (at home this morning all he wanted to do was lay on the cushion and watch TV - it was only when he got with the other children that he perked up).
It also means that my children will have to miss out on the groups and trips to the park and elsewhere because he is not a child that will sleep in the pushchair (have tried this on the odd morning that I've needed to go out) and will only sleep in the travel cot.
What would you do? Would you go along with the parents wishes at the expense of my own children and having a grumpy child who wants to do nothing much or suggest that you keep nap times the same and cut out the 3.30pm nap if they think he is having too much sleep?