francinejayne
20-04-2010, 12:23 PM
Hello, I need some help from more experienced minders. This morning I was looking after mindee, A aged 3 and a half, and my DS aged 23 months.
Sometimes both children get on well, other times they bicker like mad, and they are both as bad as each other! I sometimes try to ignore the bickering to see if they can resolve it themselves, and I only try to intervene when it's getting too heated or one of them is upset.
We were playing out in the back garden when A got the doll and put it on the swing. My son walked over as she was strapping the doll in. A shouted at him to move and shoved him in the chest - he didn't fall over and didn't get upset, and neither did he move. So A grabbed the swing, pulled it back as far as she could and the pushed it really hard directly at my son. I tried to get there in time, but the swing hit him hard in the face, knocking him over. He was very upset. (There are no marks or bruises now.)
I will be completely honest, I was LIVID! I shouted at A and sent her inside. After 5 minutes I spoke to her again - I could not speak to her before then as I was so angry - and explained why what she did was so wrong, she then apologised to my son and I let her come back outside to carry on playing.
This is the first time I have ever shouted at a mindee, but I just couldn't help myself. Was I wrong to do so? I feel terrible :(
Do i need to write an incident report for this or will writing it in her diary be enough?
thanks!
Sometimes both children get on well, other times they bicker like mad, and they are both as bad as each other! I sometimes try to ignore the bickering to see if they can resolve it themselves, and I only try to intervene when it's getting too heated or one of them is upset.
We were playing out in the back garden when A got the doll and put it on the swing. My son walked over as she was strapping the doll in. A shouted at him to move and shoved him in the chest - he didn't fall over and didn't get upset, and neither did he move. So A grabbed the swing, pulled it back as far as she could and the pushed it really hard directly at my son. I tried to get there in time, but the swing hit him hard in the face, knocking him over. He was very upset. (There are no marks or bruises now.)
I will be completely honest, I was LIVID! I shouted at A and sent her inside. After 5 minutes I spoke to her again - I could not speak to her before then as I was so angry - and explained why what she did was so wrong, she then apologised to my son and I let her come back outside to carry on playing.
This is the first time I have ever shouted at a mindee, but I just couldn't help myself. Was I wrong to do so? I feel terrible :(
Do i need to write an incident report for this or will writing it in her diary be enough?
thanks!