Fitrix
24-03-2010, 12:57 PM
Hi All,
I look after a little boy of 5 years. He came to me 2 years ago because his previous childminder couldn't cope with his behaviour. I believe this was because her setting just wasn't right for him but also he has been quite challenging. Over the last 2 years he has been ok with me - mostly because I am very strict and have clear boundaries which he is hesitant to cross - although he constantly pushes them! He loves my setting because he has brilliant friends here - slightly older children and we do loads of activities and fun outings, although I think he is very wary of me (and most adults except his parents). However I find his behaviour really tiring - I am constantly on edge when he's here, monitoring his every move becuase if I don't he instantly starts winding other kids up, hitting, fighting, doing things he knows he shouldn't. I have to hide weapons of any kind becuase he just doesn't seem to realise/care that a lash of a plastic sword around someone's face will hurt!
On top of this he is very insecure in himself - he gets embarrassed when asked anything or if he is the focus of attention (by an adult). I have to select activities very carefully to get him involved - if its a bit challenging he won't even try - its like he's terrified of failing. He also has odd cleanliness habits - if a speck of dirt/paint gets on his clothes or hands he wants to change / wash his hands. He finds sharing his own stuff very hard. His speech / writing / reading and behind but improving - although this is really difficult for me to know becuase he just won't share his knowledge at all - just clams up.
I have tried speaking to the parents on the odd occasion but I really feel they talk the talk - say all the right things, but don't carry through. There are clearly no consistent boundaries in place and he treats them appallingly.
So it has been suggested to me that I do a Common Assessment Framework form on him - does anyone have any experience of this. Do you think he warrants it? I'm really stuck and dont' really know how to go forward with this. I'd really appreciate any advice and help.
I look after a little boy of 5 years. He came to me 2 years ago because his previous childminder couldn't cope with his behaviour. I believe this was because her setting just wasn't right for him but also he has been quite challenging. Over the last 2 years he has been ok with me - mostly because I am very strict and have clear boundaries which he is hesitant to cross - although he constantly pushes them! He loves my setting because he has brilliant friends here - slightly older children and we do loads of activities and fun outings, although I think he is very wary of me (and most adults except his parents). However I find his behaviour really tiring - I am constantly on edge when he's here, monitoring his every move becuase if I don't he instantly starts winding other kids up, hitting, fighting, doing things he knows he shouldn't. I have to hide weapons of any kind becuase he just doesn't seem to realise/care that a lash of a plastic sword around someone's face will hurt!
On top of this he is very insecure in himself - he gets embarrassed when asked anything or if he is the focus of attention (by an adult). I have to select activities very carefully to get him involved - if its a bit challenging he won't even try - its like he's terrified of failing. He also has odd cleanliness habits - if a speck of dirt/paint gets on his clothes or hands he wants to change / wash his hands. He finds sharing his own stuff very hard. His speech / writing / reading and behind but improving - although this is really difficult for me to know becuase he just won't share his knowledge at all - just clams up.
I have tried speaking to the parents on the odd occasion but I really feel they talk the talk - say all the right things, but don't carry through. There are clearly no consistent boundaries in place and he treats them appallingly.
So it has been suggested to me that I do a Common Assessment Framework form on him - does anyone have any experience of this. Do you think he warrants it? I'm really stuck and dont' really know how to go forward with this. I'd really appreciate any advice and help.