View Full Version : dropping a mindee help please

16-03-2010, 08:08 AM
prob not the best way to put it but not really sure how would be the best way to put it but basically as the title says.......

Basically I have had this mindee for a few months now, and dont get me wrong he is lovely but I find him hard to gel with... he plays in silence not interested in any activity and if he doesn't want to do anything he whimpers... hes only 3 so prob nothing out the norm... the other reasons are hes one day a week, 1-6pm, his mum tries to dictate to me what I am working ie till 7pm etc, Ive had probs with her payment and her trying to get out of paying for certain things.....
so nothing major I just cant gel with this boy, Im also getting very tired and feel like Ive taken on a bit more then I can chew with the number of children I have (all within my numbers) and the length of hours I work, pretty much 6am - 6 pm monday to fri, thats not including paperwork etc.... so I want to reduce.... I have children everyday of the week other then Monday during school hours, if i do drop this one I will get Tuesday during school hours as well (also allowing me to catch up with my house work etc...

I feel bad at the thought of dropping one but things are getting too much... how can I do with without sounding like a horrid c/m

16-03-2010, 08:15 AM
I wouldnt say too much, just say due to family commitments it isnt possible to continue with contract so are giving notice. Can you recommend any others who would be willing to do it?

16-03-2010, 08:16 AM
I dont think you have to give a reason, but if mum asks, just say for your own family/sanity/paperwork etc you have to cut your hours.

Good luck, you have to put yourself first and think about your own needs

16-03-2010, 08:21 AM
just read what i put and it all sounds silly and quiet nasty :S im on holiday week after next so Ill do it then :S he is a nice enough boy, i guess you just dont gel with them all...

16-03-2010, 08:23 AM
just read what i put and it all sounds silly and quiet nasty :S im on holiday week after next so Ill do it then :S he is a nice enough boy, i guess you just dont gel with them all...

It is not a reflection on yourself and this happens sometimes

Dont be so hard on yourself

You have to do what is right for YOU and your family

Angel xxx

16-03-2010, 08:31 AM
You always gel with some cildren better than others but if there are also complications with parents being difficult then it only makes it worse. You have every right to do the hours you want and a brief explanation regarding time with your family - catching up on paperwork etc is fine to give to the parent.

I always have found it hard if i have had to cancel a contract, did it last week and i always feel like the bad guy but as my friends and family say - you've got to do what feels right and you need to enjoy your job too!

16-03-2010, 10:20 AM

I had a child that quite literally bounced of the walls from the second she arrived (afterschoolie) until the moment she left, quite often spitting on the driveway as she left and treading on any insect that was in her way:eek:

My dd (who was in her class) never complained but i could see that she couldn't cope with sharing an environment with this child at home as well as at school, so i terminated her contract.....Im getting to the point in relation to termination of contracts (sorry)

I just wrote mum a letter explaining that as of *** (giving the notcie period) i would no longer be able to care for *** due to an alteration in family commitments and the need for more spare time to further my personal development. I also offered to assist in finding alternative childcare arrangements and recommended another childminder to her (I had scouted a childminder who was willing to take on the challenge first!!...Didn't want to drop anyon in it!!:D )

Hope the above bit helps.....But i also have a lo who found it incredibly difficult to mix, would only play alone and wimpered if anyone made a noise:eek: . I discovered that the majority of the time he spent with his parents there was only him, he never visited toddler groups and at the music sessions he went to with mum, he was treated like a newborn!:eek:

I only have him 1 & half days a week and mum requested that i didn't take him to any groups at all, as they were dirty and noisy!!:eek: :eek:
As it wouldn't have affected any other children, i agreed. However, as soon as i noticed his inability to interact i knew i had to speak with mum and reassure her that socialising at groups was an important element towards his development and ability to get along with others and share.
I am happy to say that she relented and the child is a CHANGED boy!! Happy, chatty and loves to play. Mum is very grateful!!:)

Good luck with whatever you decide!:thumbsup:

The Juggler
16-03-2010, 02:16 PM
Emmadines if you feel bad you could 'force' the situation. Just get as tough as you like with mum, say she can't dictate working hours, your contract is xxxx. Hopefully, she'll get miffed enough to give YOU notice. You've nothing to lose by doing it.

If not, I'd go with what the others have said, due to personal circumstances.

Good luckx

Chatterbox Childcare
16-03-2010, 02:17 PM
I would do some research first and find a few others minders that she could call and when you give notice, give her the list.

You can do no more.

16-03-2010, 03:57 PM
Oh no I plan to try to find a couple c/m for her to go to instead, its funny really as weve had a gd day with him.......

blue bear
16-03-2010, 05:02 PM
it seems to me it's the hours not the child, but as you say you have not gelled with him too well so it's easier some how to think of giving notice.
Have been in this situation, just write your letter and get it over with (having got alternative sorted out if you can)