Blackhorse
29-01-2010, 05:35 PM
ok LO 6 years loves tuna pasta.
I told him on the way home we will have it. So he was really excited and happy about it. I dont make it very often but every so often I dont mind
anyways, I made it and he eat a couple of spoonfulls and then stopped saying he had a sore tummy. So I was ok you dont have to eat it and asked if he was ok...said yes he wants desert.
So I thought he made up the sore tummy to only eat desert although he wouldnt usually do it.
so I said you shouldnt eat anything else especially oranges or kiwi as they are acidic as you tummy is sore. he then said his tummy wasnt really sore.
but it was sore at school so I said no desert if you have a sore tummy.
he tried to argue to have desert anyways and then he said his tummy wasnt sore anymore so I said well then you can finish your food??
he said no he didnt want it. I said but I asked you in the car and you said you really wanted it....he said only because the others might like it.
he got upset about it a bit (he easily gets upset about everything and according to his mum he turns on tears to get out of having a conversation he doesnt like) so I said he doenst need to be upset but I would like him in future to tell me what he wants and what not so I know before I cook. He kept asking for desert and I said no we dont get desert when we dont eat our food. (as I was convinced he only stopped eating to get more desert....)
and I dont want to start this type of behaviour.
But after a while I felt really mean and gave them a little pot of yoghurt. But not the actual desert (fruit platter) they would have usually had and which is what I think caused this all.
Am I mean? or too strict?
I dont mind if LOs dont finish their food or if they are full and dont want anymore. that is perfectly fine. What I dont like is a net of excuses and made up stories as to why they cannot eat to get something else.
If he would have said to me: I dont want tuna pasta today I would have made something else probably coz I dont mind
Or even if he would have said I had enough I dont really like it today or actually now that I have it I dont really want it...that would have been ok and I would have still given him the desert he wanted.
but what annoyed me about it was the longwinded stories and kind of making up things. nearly lying.
what do you all think????
I told him on the way home we will have it. So he was really excited and happy about it. I dont make it very often but every so often I dont mind
anyways, I made it and he eat a couple of spoonfulls and then stopped saying he had a sore tummy. So I was ok you dont have to eat it and asked if he was ok...said yes he wants desert.
So I thought he made up the sore tummy to only eat desert although he wouldnt usually do it.
so I said you shouldnt eat anything else especially oranges or kiwi as they are acidic as you tummy is sore. he then said his tummy wasnt really sore.
but it was sore at school so I said no desert if you have a sore tummy.
he tried to argue to have desert anyways and then he said his tummy wasnt sore anymore so I said well then you can finish your food??
he said no he didnt want it. I said but I asked you in the car and you said you really wanted it....he said only because the others might like it.
he got upset about it a bit (he easily gets upset about everything and according to his mum he turns on tears to get out of having a conversation he doesnt like) so I said he doenst need to be upset but I would like him in future to tell me what he wants and what not so I know before I cook. He kept asking for desert and I said no we dont get desert when we dont eat our food. (as I was convinced he only stopped eating to get more desert....)
and I dont want to start this type of behaviour.
But after a while I felt really mean and gave them a little pot of yoghurt. But not the actual desert (fruit platter) they would have usually had and which is what I think caused this all.
Am I mean? or too strict?
I dont mind if LOs dont finish their food or if they are full and dont want anymore. that is perfectly fine. What I dont like is a net of excuses and made up stories as to why they cannot eat to get something else.
If he would have said to me: I dont want tuna pasta today I would have made something else probably coz I dont mind
Or even if he would have said I had enough I dont really like it today or actually now that I have it I dont really want it...that would have been ok and I would have still given him the desert he wanted.
but what annoyed me about it was the longwinded stories and kind of making up things. nearly lying.
what do you all think????