little miss chatterbox
29-09-2009, 05:48 PM
Ok, so I think I'm a fairly strict mum, don't take any rubbish off my children and tend to be firm but fair with my mindee's too. I don't usually have a discipline problem except the odd thing here and there (my children are good but not angels!)
So I have a 23 month old who I've had since June. Mindee is lovely, very cute (and they know it) and usually very good and placid!
However, just recently they have been pushing the boundaries a little bit (hitting dogs, shouting and screaming in the house and putting food on the floor)
So when I try to discipline said mindee, I tell them that what they are doing is naughty or not nice (i use not acceptable with older children but I feel a 23 month old wont understand the words not acceptable). I get down to their level and use a low firm voice......mindee just laughs at me!
I had a chat with mum once when the food was thrown on the floor because they did it once, I told them it was naughty and they did it again. Mum informed me that when they say something is naughty to child the child then thinks it's a game and does it more.
So I took from that conversation that they are not very firm with mindee when they discipline them and probably laugh at the same time hence why mindee is either laughing at me or smiling at me waiting for me to laugh!
It's starting to wear me down though because everything I say falls on deaf ears and gets ignored and mindee carries on hitting dogs etc!
So I wondered if you lovely people could give me some advice on how you would proceed. Would you perservere and hope it gets through, have another chat with parents about discipline, or my other thinking is can I use a time out spot for mindee or are they too young to understand? I would do it with one of my children but I'm not sure if 23 months is too young?
I eagerly await your pearls of wisdom!
So I have a 23 month old who I've had since June. Mindee is lovely, very cute (and they know it) and usually very good and placid!
However, just recently they have been pushing the boundaries a little bit (hitting dogs, shouting and screaming in the house and putting food on the floor)
So when I try to discipline said mindee, I tell them that what they are doing is naughty or not nice (i use not acceptable with older children but I feel a 23 month old wont understand the words not acceptable). I get down to their level and use a low firm voice......mindee just laughs at me!
I had a chat with mum once when the food was thrown on the floor because they did it once, I told them it was naughty and they did it again. Mum informed me that when they say something is naughty to child the child then thinks it's a game and does it more.
So I took from that conversation that they are not very firm with mindee when they discipline them and probably laugh at the same time hence why mindee is either laughing at me or smiling at me waiting for me to laugh!
It's starting to wear me down though because everything I say falls on deaf ears and gets ignored and mindee carries on hitting dogs etc!
So I wondered if you lovely people could give me some advice on how you would proceed. Would you perservere and hope it gets through, have another chat with parents about discipline, or my other thinking is can I use a time out spot for mindee or are they too young to understand? I would do it with one of my children but I'm not sure if 23 months is too young?
I eagerly await your pearls of wisdom!