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29-09-2009, 12:37 PM
I live in a small village community and am lucky in that I am full with lots of children my kids go to school with and live locally to. But I am very close to lots of mums and their kids. So I am full does it mean:
a) I can't have my daughters friends for tea or dinner without parents unless they are within my numbers, even though its a playdate for no reward?
b) I can't help out a mum who is poorly and might need emergency care for her child for a couple of hours (no charge as personal favour)
I find myself in the midst of village life and my natural response when someone needs help to offer my support however I can - but stop myself in the case of helping look after the a child or having kids come over after school for tea because i'm not really sure. Actually I know the answer is I can't because i'd be over my numbers - but hoping someone will say no actually there is this loophole and this is how you deal with it.
I have a friend whose mum is very ill, dad is in intensive care as is mums main carer and she is very poorly herself and running herself into the ground - her poor little boy is caught up in it all and I want to help her and him be offering to pick him up for no charge and letting him hang out at mine for a couple of hours to give her a break. But I feel I can't and it goes against all my instincts to help. Is there a way?
a) I can't have my daughters friends for tea or dinner without parents unless they are within my numbers, even though its a playdate for no reward?
b) I can't help out a mum who is poorly and might need emergency care for her child for a couple of hours (no charge as personal favour)
I find myself in the midst of village life and my natural response when someone needs help to offer my support however I can - but stop myself in the case of helping look after the a child or having kids come over after school for tea because i'm not really sure. Actually I know the answer is I can't because i'd be over my numbers - but hoping someone will say no actually there is this loophole and this is how you deal with it.
I have a friend whose mum is very ill, dad is in intensive care as is mums main carer and she is very poorly herself and running herself into the ground - her poor little boy is caught up in it all and I want to help her and him be offering to pick him up for no charge and letting him hang out at mine for a couple of hours to give her a break. But I feel I can't and it goes against all my instincts to help. Is there a way?