DIPPY DOUGHNUT
23-09-2009, 08:53 AM
I have a child that i look after from 7.30am till 9.00am when i drop him to pre-school.
Bit of back ground!
His parents are seperated and he spents one week with one and one with the other, (although this seems never seems to be the case) anyway ive only minded him for just short of 4 weeks, when he first came here he was a lovely boy but as the time is going by his behaviour is getting worse. (especially when he is changing from 1 parent to the other) Yesterday he told my child that he was going to smack her in the face (charming!).
Anyway 2 weeks ago his key worker at the pre school, pulled me to one side and asked me about his behaviour over the last 2 days, i said that he had been fine with me and she said he had spent most of the days in time out. and that his behaviour is an ongoing issue. She then informed me that the parent said that as i only look after him for 1 hour a day (1 1/2 actually) i dont need to communicate with the pre school so they are not allowed to discuss him with me.
I spoke to dad about why i needed to communicate with the pre school and how it would be in the childs best intrests. I explained in simple english about the eyfs, obs etc and that prehaps we all needed to be disiplining him in the same way other wise it would be confusing for a 3 yr old to know what behaivour is allowed where.
Finally thought i was getting somewhere when i got a letter from the school today from mum saying the only thing they are allowed to talk to me about is his disipline!:angry:
The mum seems to think i am just a babysitter! she doesnt want me to do anything constructive with him as he does this at pre school
im lucky if mum says hello to me!:angry: i never get told if he has had breakfast and hes starting to ask for food, i never know which parent is dropping him off:angry:
The things is he can be such a lovley boy and i want to help him withhis behaviour as i thinkits just a temp thing but the mum is a nightmare!
sorry for long rant at least i feel abit better!:)
Bit of back ground!
His parents are seperated and he spents one week with one and one with the other, (although this seems never seems to be the case) anyway ive only minded him for just short of 4 weeks, when he first came here he was a lovely boy but as the time is going by his behaviour is getting worse. (especially when he is changing from 1 parent to the other) Yesterday he told my child that he was going to smack her in the face (charming!).
Anyway 2 weeks ago his key worker at the pre school, pulled me to one side and asked me about his behaviour over the last 2 days, i said that he had been fine with me and she said he had spent most of the days in time out. and that his behaviour is an ongoing issue. She then informed me that the parent said that as i only look after him for 1 hour a day (1 1/2 actually) i dont need to communicate with the pre school so they are not allowed to discuss him with me.
I spoke to dad about why i needed to communicate with the pre school and how it would be in the childs best intrests. I explained in simple english about the eyfs, obs etc and that prehaps we all needed to be disiplining him in the same way other wise it would be confusing for a 3 yr old to know what behaivour is allowed where.
Finally thought i was getting somewhere when i got a letter from the school today from mum saying the only thing they are allowed to talk to me about is his disipline!:angry:
The mum seems to think i am just a babysitter! she doesnt want me to do anything constructive with him as he does this at pre school
im lucky if mum says hello to me!:angry: i never get told if he has had breakfast and hes starting to ask for food, i never know which parent is dropping him off:angry:
The things is he can be such a lovley boy and i want to help him withhis behaviour as i thinkits just a temp thing but the mum is a nightmare!
sorry for long rant at least i feel abit better!:)