Adiamond
29-07-2009, 08:23 AM
Hi, I don't know if you will remember I had an enquiry about 6 weeks ago from a mum wanting childcare for her 2 children from Sept a girl age 3 going to nursery for 2 1/2 days a week and a boy age 2 . Mum wanted me to take and pick up the girl from nursery (different school to my son :( ) and keep her until 5.30 and to have the boy 2 1/2 days from 8-5.30pm, she wants me to give them both a cooked meal at tea time.
Anyway this was 6 weeks ago she came round first thing she said was that she was going to another minder straight after me :angry: (she was my very first enquiry!!!) something didn't feel right even at this time.
I asked what time the girls school opened ?she couldn't tell me!!! it turns out she starts exactly the same time as my son and the schools are a good 10 minutes apart in the car, I said I wouldn't be able to do the drop off because of this she then said it didn't matter if the girl was late.
My son has swimming on one of these nights and I just couldn't manage all of them and he comes first.
She has never rung me only had text messages from her, I rang to arrange a second visit but she would not commit to making a date, I asked her for a deposit but she said could I do something about the deposit as she as just come back from hols and couldn't afford the full months deposit :angry:
So I have held these places open for 6 weeks up to now with no deposit paid,no contact, no settling in period.
Something just didn't seem right with all this, is this how the mum will be??
I spoke to my co-ordinator and she said to go with my gut instinct so I told this woman yesterday that I am unable to offer her these places.
I then had my co-ordinator on the phone saying this woman had rung and was frantic she had given notice at the nursery they are at, she has bought school uniform and she tried talking me into doing it:( I said I just couldn't do it and she knows why. I feel really bad but I cannot be in 2 places at the same time.
Well I received a text message last night from this woman and OMG it was awful saying she had heard that my reasons were not true and she is really disappointed by what I have done, I was so upset by this, I text her back saying that I was sorry and as I am sure she will understand that my family comes first and I said that I dont appreciate her sending accusations to me on hearsay!!!!
She replied saying that the Family Information Service had told her that it was because she didn't pay me my deposit!!!!!
I feel so angry and upset that my co-ordinator has told her this even though this was part of the reason it was mainly to do with my son and his after school activities.I thought what we told them was confidential????
This has put a downer on everything I was just beginning to get my confidence with all this and now this has happened :(
Thanks for listening :) sorry it's long :) x x x
Anyway this was 6 weeks ago she came round first thing she said was that she was going to another minder straight after me :angry: (she was my very first enquiry!!!) something didn't feel right even at this time.
I asked what time the girls school opened ?she couldn't tell me!!! it turns out she starts exactly the same time as my son and the schools are a good 10 minutes apart in the car, I said I wouldn't be able to do the drop off because of this she then said it didn't matter if the girl was late.
My son has swimming on one of these nights and I just couldn't manage all of them and he comes first.
She has never rung me only had text messages from her, I rang to arrange a second visit but she would not commit to making a date, I asked her for a deposit but she said could I do something about the deposit as she as just come back from hols and couldn't afford the full months deposit :angry:
So I have held these places open for 6 weeks up to now with no deposit paid,no contact, no settling in period.
Something just didn't seem right with all this, is this how the mum will be??
I spoke to my co-ordinator and she said to go with my gut instinct so I told this woman yesterday that I am unable to offer her these places.
I then had my co-ordinator on the phone saying this woman had rung and was frantic she had given notice at the nursery they are at, she has bought school uniform and she tried talking me into doing it:( I said I just couldn't do it and she knows why. I feel really bad but I cannot be in 2 places at the same time.
Well I received a text message last night from this woman and OMG it was awful saying she had heard that my reasons were not true and she is really disappointed by what I have done, I was so upset by this, I text her back saying that I was sorry and as I am sure she will understand that my family comes first and I said that I dont appreciate her sending accusations to me on hearsay!!!!
She replied saying that the Family Information Service had told her that it was because she didn't pay me my deposit!!!!!
I feel so angry and upset that my co-ordinator has told her this even though this was part of the reason it was mainly to do with my son and his after school activities.I thought what we told them was confidential????
This has put a downer on everything I was just beginning to get my confidence with all this and now this has happened :(
Thanks for listening :) sorry it's long :) x x x