LeeAnn
17-06-2009, 06:36 PM
Today I had my first mindee for a trial. I was hoping to do it next week but in the end (for a few reasons) it happened this week, so I was maybe not as organised as I would have been.
Anyway a bit of background, my DD is 3 YO and the new mindee also a girl is 2YO.
She came in fine, wasn't upset at all at being left by Dad, in fact only asked where her parents were twice. The girls got on ok, the LO is obviously used to just getting to do whatever. She currently is looked after by friends and mum says the friends children are quite "wild" and it has started to rub off on her daughter, hence her coming to me. Anyway the girls bickered a bit and as the LO is only 2 "mine" was a favourite word ;) but I expected that and also know that it will take everyone time to adjust.
It was pouring rain so we didn't get to go out and play. just about an hour in, I had literally just stepped out of the room (isn't that the way :rolleyes: ) when I heard my DD screaming, I went rushing in and she had been bitten really badly on the cheek, I obviously rushed her to the kitchen and put some frozen peas on it. The I went to explain to the mindee that it is not ok to bite. I sat with her for a minute and we had a quiet "time out" she then went and said sorry to my DD and gave her a cuddle which was nice.
After refereeing for another wee while I pulled out a load of craft stuff and voila! peace reigned until she was picked up. I felt so bad and realise now that I should have had a scheduled activity to start off with , I thought she may have needed a settle in time but I think I should have been more structured :(
I told mum what had happened but tried to stress that overall it went well and she was very settled. Mum was horrified and said she hoped I had disciplined her so I explained we had a time out butnot sure if the wee one understood. Mum seemed okm with this. I really didn;t know what else to do? Is there anything else I should have done?
I think I am just wanting to know if this kind of thing has happened to anyone else or am I forever destined to be a terrible childminder :(
My DD hasn't been put off and said she is looking forward to the mindee coming to play again.
sorry it was loooooooong :blush:
Anyway a bit of background, my DD is 3 YO and the new mindee also a girl is 2YO.
She came in fine, wasn't upset at all at being left by Dad, in fact only asked where her parents were twice. The girls got on ok, the LO is obviously used to just getting to do whatever. She currently is looked after by friends and mum says the friends children are quite "wild" and it has started to rub off on her daughter, hence her coming to me. Anyway the girls bickered a bit and as the LO is only 2 "mine" was a favourite word ;) but I expected that and also know that it will take everyone time to adjust.
It was pouring rain so we didn't get to go out and play. just about an hour in, I had literally just stepped out of the room (isn't that the way :rolleyes: ) when I heard my DD screaming, I went rushing in and she had been bitten really badly on the cheek, I obviously rushed her to the kitchen and put some frozen peas on it. The I went to explain to the mindee that it is not ok to bite. I sat with her for a minute and we had a quiet "time out" she then went and said sorry to my DD and gave her a cuddle which was nice.
After refereeing for another wee while I pulled out a load of craft stuff and voila! peace reigned until she was picked up. I felt so bad and realise now that I should have had a scheduled activity to start off with , I thought she may have needed a settle in time but I think I should have been more structured :(
I told mum what had happened but tried to stress that overall it went well and she was very settled. Mum was horrified and said she hoped I had disciplined her so I explained we had a time out butnot sure if the wee one understood. Mum seemed okm with this. I really didn;t know what else to do? Is there anything else I should have done?
I think I am just wanting to know if this kind of thing has happened to anyone else or am I forever destined to be a terrible childminder :(
My DD hasn't been put off and said she is looking forward to the mindee coming to play again.
sorry it was loooooooong :blush: