helenlc
06-02-2009, 06:33 PM
I mind full time for a 2 yr old (3 at the end of March). He is generally a lovely sweet boy, eats well, very cheery and affectionate.
However, the flip side is his bad behaviour. When he has the hump, he has the HUMP!! He will clear the table of toys with one swipe of his arm, throw toys. As for me, he will try to bite, kick, scratch, pinch etc.
Last week, we were at a Toddler Group and he got into having a tantrum because I took his cardigan off him (he was swinging it around and I asked him to stop so that he didnt hurt somebody with it). He then starting throwing things and clearing the table so I held him on my lap. He then proceeded to try to scratch, claw at and pinch my arm - even moving my sleeve out the way to make sure he got my skin!
I then held his hands and held them folded across his body so he couldnt get my arms. So then he tried to BITE my arms. He also tried to head butt me by throwing his head back and kicking me also.
I have spoken with Mum about this tonight and said that when we are out somewhere, I have to hold onto him as he is a danger to others (myself included) and possibly himself as well. She said that she has to do this and said if approrpiate she has no objections to me doing the same.
But my question is this - how do I deal with his bad behaviour?
His speech isnt where it should be for his age so I think a lot is frustration. I think he understands most of what I say to him ie he follows simple instructions, knows what I mean when I say its time to get my kids from school. But I cannot have a conversation with him about his behaviour, well I do but its one sided ie me. What I mean is, I dont get a response from him to know why he did what he did, how is feeling and what he would like to do instead of throwing toys ie have a time out, be by himself etc.
I dont know whether he would understand the concept of a reward chart.
I just struggle to know what I can give as a punishment - if it was my own kids, I would take away their TVs, DS, send them to bed early etc.
If we are indoors, I put him in the hallway to calm down etc. But he usually comes crawling back to the front room. I take him back but again am I allowed to keep doing this (like Supernanny suggests)? Or should I be doing something else.
I do get him to say Sorry and he does eventually. But when he has had a big tantrum, I am not sure whether he would remember what it was he did that he is being made to say Sorry for iyswim?
Any suggestions welcome as its wearing me out now!! And I dont want to end up dreading him coming just incase he has a tantrum.
However, the flip side is his bad behaviour. When he has the hump, he has the HUMP!! He will clear the table of toys with one swipe of his arm, throw toys. As for me, he will try to bite, kick, scratch, pinch etc.
Last week, we were at a Toddler Group and he got into having a tantrum because I took his cardigan off him (he was swinging it around and I asked him to stop so that he didnt hurt somebody with it). He then starting throwing things and clearing the table so I held him on my lap. He then proceeded to try to scratch, claw at and pinch my arm - even moving my sleeve out the way to make sure he got my skin!
I then held his hands and held them folded across his body so he couldnt get my arms. So then he tried to BITE my arms. He also tried to head butt me by throwing his head back and kicking me also.
I have spoken with Mum about this tonight and said that when we are out somewhere, I have to hold onto him as he is a danger to others (myself included) and possibly himself as well. She said that she has to do this and said if approrpiate she has no objections to me doing the same.
But my question is this - how do I deal with his bad behaviour?
His speech isnt where it should be for his age so I think a lot is frustration. I think he understands most of what I say to him ie he follows simple instructions, knows what I mean when I say its time to get my kids from school. But I cannot have a conversation with him about his behaviour, well I do but its one sided ie me. What I mean is, I dont get a response from him to know why he did what he did, how is feeling and what he would like to do instead of throwing toys ie have a time out, be by himself etc.
I dont know whether he would understand the concept of a reward chart.
I just struggle to know what I can give as a punishment - if it was my own kids, I would take away their TVs, DS, send them to bed early etc.
If we are indoors, I put him in the hallway to calm down etc. But he usually comes crawling back to the front room. I take him back but again am I allowed to keep doing this (like Supernanny suggests)? Or should I be doing something else.
I do get him to say Sorry and he does eventually. But when he has had a big tantrum, I am not sure whether he would remember what it was he did that he is being made to say Sorry for iyswim?
Any suggestions welcome as its wearing me out now!! And I dont want to end up dreading him coming just incase he has a tantrum.