Francesca
08-10-2008, 11:50 PM
I know its probably too late for advice, but I'm not going to sleep well for worrying either so thought I might as well write it out now.
I look after a 4 year old after school, 5.00pm - 7 pm though she is usually picked up about 6.30ish. In light of this I charge the normal rate for both hours, but a min 10 hour weekly contract regardless of use. So even though Mum works 3 days only, I pick her up 5 days. Thats fine by me seeing as she pays me but I have noticed over the last two weeeks she has got later and later, one day being 7.15. DH said she was trouble from the start and tonight was the biscuit.
She can be very rude and I have found tonight really difficult. I'll be honest, I have caused the problem myself really, dropped her off home twice because of bad weather, and a further twice as mum was unwell. Not charged her one day as she was 15 mins late. Last week she was going out Friday, I arrived to drop her daughter off and she informed me she wouldnt be paying me till sunday or monday as she couldn't take enough out of the bank - I didnt know what to say - though I was paid monday, she always pays a week behind.
So tonight, she texts me at 6.46pm to says she is going to get something to eat and wont be back till 7.30pm, hope thats ok? As it happened I had friends coming over at 8pm so I texted back and said I was sorry but I couldn't and was happy to drop her off somewhere but it had to be now. I did take 9mins to text back, I didnt know what to say and wanted to make sure I phrased it so I didnt offend. Needless to say DH was furious.
So after 15 mins, I was talking to DH, mobile goes and you can guess the rest - daughter hands it to me and accidently clicks it on, while I say to hubby, that will be the mother to say she will be back in 10... now I still dont think it was rude, I didnt say it to hubby to be rude but matter of fact. But you could here she was fuming - but what did she say - its xx I will be back in 5 minutes.
15 minutes later - 7.30pm she arrives, nearly breaks her hand pounding on my door, my youngest one in bed by this point, storms through the house without looking at me, gets her daughter, wont look at me and turns her back on me, wont let me say anything, get's ready and slams my door on the way out. I am really upset she came into my house, and behaved like that in front of my children, when she arrived at 7.30pm anyhow - so if she missed her meal I assume she would have been texting me to tell me she was going to be even later!!!
So my question after all that? What do I do now???
DH wants me to give her the notice period of 4 weeks. Or even better let her off the last weeeks money and this weeks and tell her to find other care for her.
Can anyone give a suggestion as to how to handle this? I dont even know whether I should ring to see if I am still to pick her up tomorrow.
Many thanks and sorry for the essay
Francesca
I look after a 4 year old after school, 5.00pm - 7 pm though she is usually picked up about 6.30ish. In light of this I charge the normal rate for both hours, but a min 10 hour weekly contract regardless of use. So even though Mum works 3 days only, I pick her up 5 days. Thats fine by me seeing as she pays me but I have noticed over the last two weeeks she has got later and later, one day being 7.15. DH said she was trouble from the start and tonight was the biscuit.
She can be very rude and I have found tonight really difficult. I'll be honest, I have caused the problem myself really, dropped her off home twice because of bad weather, and a further twice as mum was unwell. Not charged her one day as she was 15 mins late. Last week she was going out Friday, I arrived to drop her daughter off and she informed me she wouldnt be paying me till sunday or monday as she couldn't take enough out of the bank - I didnt know what to say - though I was paid monday, she always pays a week behind.
So tonight, she texts me at 6.46pm to says she is going to get something to eat and wont be back till 7.30pm, hope thats ok? As it happened I had friends coming over at 8pm so I texted back and said I was sorry but I couldn't and was happy to drop her off somewhere but it had to be now. I did take 9mins to text back, I didnt know what to say and wanted to make sure I phrased it so I didnt offend. Needless to say DH was furious.
So after 15 mins, I was talking to DH, mobile goes and you can guess the rest - daughter hands it to me and accidently clicks it on, while I say to hubby, that will be the mother to say she will be back in 10... now I still dont think it was rude, I didnt say it to hubby to be rude but matter of fact. But you could here she was fuming - but what did she say - its xx I will be back in 5 minutes.
15 minutes later - 7.30pm she arrives, nearly breaks her hand pounding on my door, my youngest one in bed by this point, storms through the house without looking at me, gets her daughter, wont look at me and turns her back on me, wont let me say anything, get's ready and slams my door on the way out. I am really upset she came into my house, and behaved like that in front of my children, when she arrived at 7.30pm anyhow - so if she missed her meal I assume she would have been texting me to tell me she was going to be even later!!!
So my question after all that? What do I do now???
DH wants me to give her the notice period of 4 weeks. Or even better let her off the last weeeks money and this weeks and tell her to find other care for her.
Can anyone give a suggestion as to how to handle this? I dont even know whether I should ring to see if I am still to pick her up tomorrow.
Many thanks and sorry for the essay
Francesca